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How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?
This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!
I know how you feel Nicole but honestly you are being so strong after 10 days... that is an awesome effort. i am only on day 3 after reinstated n/c when i cracked and txt him so just be strong... keep your self busy go out for dinner with freinds go to the gym anything that takes your mind off him for a little while and then you when you start to realise you have not thought about him for a little while even a few hours you will realise it can be done...
Nicole... you're gonna feel like crap for awhile. break-ups are one of the hardest things to deal with, especially if you thought you had something special. its been like 4 months or something for me and i still have days where i feel like crap. i meet girls that i think are great at first, but then i get annoyed by them easily or they turn out to be crazy, and it just makes me think about my ex. how we got along so well, and everything was just great when we were together... i havent given up hope that theres a girl out there who will give me that same feeling, if not stronger... but sometimes it feels like i'll never get it back.
hang in there, NC works great... after awhile you wont be able to help but not care. when i realized that i dont really care what she's up too anymore, i cried... it was really sad to me when i realized that i dont think about her the same anymore, or that i ever will, and that i would be just fine without her. but ill get over it, i've gotten over the worst of it (thats where you are! , lol)
i feel exactly the same about meeting other guys, i go out and get attention or what ever and then just end up thinking no one is going to live up to how amazing he is or was to me and i think that gets me on the biggest downer of all... It has been 3 months for me i should be over this but we didnt do N/C we went the other way kept on sleeping together and that just prolongs everything so the more you dont speak the better it is to forget about them, even though forgeting about them is sometimes the scariest part of all...
We're all going through the same thing. I've gone on dates with 2 different guys since my break-up and both "on paper' are WAY better than my ex. But everything they say or do, i try to compare to my ex and say "it doesn't feel the same" or "that's not what my ex would say/do". We have to remember to think with our heads sometimes rather than our hearts. Think about your ex, rationally. If you do that, you'll probably start to think, "hey, they're not so great...they're not perfect". You'll never forget them, but over time and with NC you'll see them for who they really are...just a person like everyone else.....We all somehow managed to live a probably pretty happy life before our ex's came into the picture and somehow we'll be able to do the same some day after they have left.
I write this so I'll remember this when I'm feeling down. Day 3 of reinstated NC..after a 13 day stretch. God, I wish some of you guys were in the NYC area cause I'd meet up with you and we could have a lonely hearts session. : )
I know how weird is that we build them up in our heads like they are superstars or something.. esp for me because when we were together he annoyed me alot and we didnt agree on much but the old "dont know what you got till its gone" kicks in or most probably missing the comfort part and then i miss him so much well i miss something. I am meant to be going on a date with a guy i used to see a couple of years ago he is really great and we get on well but I am am a bit worried cause he is sooo differnt to my ex and i know i will constantly be comparing them.
Day 3 reinstated just like me... sux ay!!! i am in New Zealand so very far away what is the time over there?
well today is another complete day 1 of NC. Ive been weak. i will go a day without making contact and then the next day i fall apart and do something dumb like text. so i found this thread today and im on DAY 1 again. im going to try and stay strong and hope she realizes all her wrong desicions and will talk to me some day. but for now im trying to stay strong and do my own thing. wish me luck!
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