The NC Calendar

Numb · Aug 30, 2007, 02:34 AM

I just had this idea after reading Mik's post.

How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?

This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!

What about the rest of you?

Questions2007 · Sep 4, 2007, 04:41 AM

4 weeks to the day of no contact!! Two more days and it will be a record for me!

We split up 6 mths ago, she ran the whole lets be friends line. I let her do that, she clearly wanted to do that to 1) ease her guilt; 2) for someone to hang out with until she found a new bloke. I said we couldn't be friends 4 wks ago, and I wouldn't contact her, and only expected to hear from her if she wants to talk about us.

Questions2007 · Nov 6, 2007, 07:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Numb

I just had this idea after reading Mik's post.

How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?

This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!

What about the rest of you?

3 months to the day. Impressed with myself! I am way happier now, and know that if the ex ever contacts me I will be rationale in deciding whether or not to meet. I have felt myself thinking that now I see things with a clearer head (I am not sure I want to get back together with her) I was debating whether or not seeing how she is at somepoint soon!! Is that a good or bad idea?? I know from a mutual friend she is still single, is not happy with it, but thinks that I have no interest in seeing her. Thoughts??

madaman · Nov 6, 2007, 07:48 AM

Thursday will be 10 weeks for me... Crazy.

crushedovernover · Nov 6, 2007, 07:57 AM

I am going on my 4 month with zero contact. It is tough. My ex has a boyfriend who is down visiting her. Its a big pill to swallow but remember gents, she is no longer yours so just let go. I have trouble some days but there is nothing I can do. Good luck to you guys. It is a long and bumpyroad.

Jiser · Nov 6, 2007, 10:16 AM

Since July now!

Probably for ever also now.

kuulski · Nov 6, 2007, 11:58 AM

3 months and feeling good. Still miss her allot but I dont dwell on it as much as I uset too.
Not interested in dating right now either. Most girls I have met for whateva reason just dont interest me.

Unconditional85 · Nov 6, 2007, 03:41 PM

Last time i spoke with my ex was on Oct 24 so tomorrow will be two weeks..that day she called while i was in class i wouldnt had picked up if i knew it was her but she called private and i thought it was one of my friends who always calls private...when i picked up she sounded shy..n then just said that she was callin to see if i was still alive???...I actually called her two days after that out of anger of hearin that she was walkin around my neighborhood with her new bf..that was it.. even though this NC works i feel like we are all stuck waitin for them to call in my case the day she called even if it was for her dumb question it gave me some sense of relief not even hope but just brighten the day to know that she had to be thinkin of me in order for her to call... I dont like feelin like i have to rely or wait for her to call to give me this sense of peace of mind... Do any of you feel the same way???

Questions2007 · Dec 7, 2007, 03:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Numb

I just had this idea after reading Mik's post.

How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?

This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!

What about the rest of you?

4 months to the day. I am please I am still sticking to the No Contact. I am now starting to move on, been out on dates etc. I am wondering if she will ever call but there you go, who knows!!??

Although I had a bad spell last week when I almost rang her!! Should I ever call her??

talaniman · Dec 7, 2007, 05:34 AM

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Originally Posted by Questions2007

4 months to the day. I am please I am still sticking to the No Contact. I am now starting to move on, been out on dates etc. I am wondering if she will ever call but there you go, who knows!!??

Although I had a bad spell last week when I almost rang her!! Should I ever call her??

Why mess up the healing process, with a moment of insanity??? After you have healed, now thats another story. Most here who have been thru the process, have no urge to call the ex. Go figure!!!

Questions2007 · Dec 7, 2007, 06:13 AM

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Why mess up the healing process, with a moment of insanity??? After you have healed, now thats another story. Most here who have been thru the process, have no urge to call the ex. Go figure!!!

I think that is right Tal. I need to be in a place where I am ambivalent about her. I won't want to call her then anyway. If she does call, I can deal with things with a clear head, which, realistically, by then will probably mean ignoring any call from her or being very blunt.

Sometimes I have moments where I nearly slip though. I have guarded against that!! Her numbers have been deleted from my phone and are written down and put away. On the one occasion when I nearly called, by the time I had got the number, I saw sense!!

Although I am starting to move to an anger to an ambivalence phase now. If she calls, I will deal with it, if not, well it means it is her loss.



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