I just had this idea after reading Mik's post.

How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?

This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!

What about the rest of you?

Questions2007

It is amazing how textbook the pattern is for dumpees after being dumped!!

Period 1 - upset, anxiety, maybe depression, a huge desire to get the dumper back
Period 2 - Anger, upset
Period 3 - Ambivalence!!

txpriss26

Today is day 1 for me I moved out yesterday and my ex keeps texting about bills and things about the house. Doesn't he care about anything else, oh I don't know like....me? I'm miserable, sad and I don't see too much hope for my future in regards to romance

duck22

So it has been somewhere around 6 weeks of NC. During this time I have made considerable improvements but these past two days have been really rough. I came home from college for spring break and was able to see some of my best friends for the first time since the breakup. I have known these guys for a long time (before I started dating my ex) and were pretty close. However, while I was away at school I never brought up to them what happened in any phone/email conversations.

Naturally since they are so adapt to me being with her (we were together for over 4 years) they asked about her. Between you guys on this site and my mother I had never told anybody what happened between my ex and I. I kept it under wraps and if anybody else asked I would just tell them we are not together anymore.

I told my friends everything that had happened between me and her while I was away at school. They are very supportive and it did not bother me at the time talking about with them but later on in the night when I got home I could not get her off my mind. I stupidly picked up a picture book she had given me some time ago. The combination of seeing all the pictures of us together and me talking about her my buddies caught up to me. This set me back some and now I feel like I did earlier into the breakup.

Anyway I am sorry that this post is long but It helps to let it out sometimes. I guess everybody has there highs and lows and this is just a reminder that I need more time. I hope everyone else is doing well though.

dustyangel

I have an interesting situation i would like to share. I am on day 2 of NC. The interesting thing is that i did the dumping. He wasn't giving me what i needed and communication wasn't working amongst other things. So after telling him over and over that i wasn't happy and that i never saw him anymore i told him not to call me or text me anymore. I told him i wanted to be free and single. I'm tired of doing all the work in the relationship i'm the giver he's the taker so i wanted out. The thing is i feel i want to call him and tell him i'm sorry and try again to make things work. Do you know what will happen? He will continue to take me for granted and use me like he has been so i think the NC is mostly to work on you and to gain your self respect and dignity back. It doesn't matter who made the desicion to part ways, what matters is that there was a reason why it happened and although is a horrible thing to go through eventually we will all reach acceptance and realize that we don't need to chase after something that we already lost. He didn't have the guts to leave me so i did and it probably hurts even more because i had to make the desicion for both of us. To make it even worse i am pregnant with his child so he will be in my life but not as a romantic partner so i'm taking this time to get over him so i can have a healthy relationship with him in the future for the sake of our baby. The key here is to be strong and think of the outcome which is always better when you know you've done the courageous thing. So keep your heads up high and think of the ultimate prize...you will come out on top with your dignity intact and stronger then ever. If a hormonal pregnant woman can do it so can you!!!!

jiltedgirl

Hello all,

I haven't been on here in a while. I really hope everyone is doing well.

Just wanted to share that it's been almost two months since I did NC and this is the first time that I haven't felt down at the beginning of the week (I usually fluctuate through the weeks). I still think about him every now and then, but almost as a thirdy party. God I'm soooo glad that the relationship with the ex is over. I can't believe that I let anyone treat me like that and question my self-worth!!! [I guess that happens when you like someone lol. ]

Wooot to freeedom~!!!

All of you, duck22, dusty angel, txpriss, etc., keep on trucking!

Questions2007

Keep on going, and also if you can motivate others that helps!!

To be this far down the road to recovery after 2 months is very good!

Romefalls19

Kinda broke NC on Saturday..But don't feel as though it was a big deal and I'll explain why. My parents go grocery shopping at the place me n her work, they still are really close with my ex which I'm ok with(I just tell them not to tell me what she says). Well something happened and it really got my mom upset, and my ex actually was being nice to her called the manager and made sure they told me what happened. A cashier had freaked out on my mom, making a huge scene. So my ex did all this and then said "make sure you call George, I would but he doesn't talk to me anymore" So she then text my mom asking how she was. So when I went to leave for the day, I took my headphones off and walked up to her and simply said "Hey Brianna, thanks for checkin on my mom. It meant a lot to her and I appreciate what you did. So thank you"

Was that so bad? I really want to stick to the NC thing

ihatewestseneca

If it doesn't really phase you then its okay, i would just hope that this doesn't open a can of worms. But yeah, as long as you're over her or at least not holding onto any hope that she'll come back, then i think it was cool.

Romefalls19

Nah, no hope ha ha..I figure what's meant to be will be...Regardless of what I say or do, I'm not over her but talking to her like that didn't make me want to go home and watch the Notebook crying. I actually ended up going to a party ha ha...I'm enjoying being single, no body calling and checking in on me

ihatewestseneca

too right, dont have to be home at a certain time to talk on the phone before bed... going and doing whatever i want... its really not that bad at all.