I just had this idea after reading Mik's post.

How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?

This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!

What about the rest of you?

jiltedgirl

Sure!

This is one of the few songs that I actually like from the band. I'm not that much of a fan. I usually listen to very mellow, indie (and depressing or so people have told me) music, but because I was happy at this point in my life, I liked this one. I remember I was so hesitant to even date him or even show any type of affection due to my last painful breakup, but he was so patient, understanding, and sweet that he eventually won me over. I was just amazed that a guy I really liked could be so crazy about me, too. I never told him I even liked this song, since that would have been embarrassing lol.

I don't mean to seem really sappy/delusional or anything, but I know that this is how he felt about me... at the time of course

Wow. Thanks, George! I don't know why, but looking up the lyrics for you and writing the above just made me feel alot better now. It made me realize that I really do thank him for the experience and for helping me take another chance with someone, even if it didn't work out.

I don't know how I'll feel later, but right now at this very moment, I don't have any regrets.

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BAND: The Fratellis
SONG: "Whistle For The Choir"

Well it's a big big city and it's always the same
Can never be too pretty tell me you your name
Is it out of line if I were simply bold to say "Would you be mine"?

Because I may be a beggar and you maybe the queen
I know I maybe on a downer am still ready to dream
Now it's 3 o'clock time it takes for you to talk

So if you're lonely why'd you say your not lonely
Oh your a silly girl, I know I hurt it so
It's just like you to come
And go you know me no you don't even know me
Your so sweet to try, oh my, you caught my eye
A girl like you's just irresistible

Well it's a big big city and the lights are all out
But it's much as I can do you know to figure you out
And I must confess, my hearts in broken pieces
And my heads a mess
And it's 4 in the morning, and I'm walking along
Beside the ghost of every drinker here who has ever done wrong
And it's you, woo hoo
That's got me going crazy for the things you do

So if your crazy I don't care you amaze me
Oh your a stupid girl, oh me, oh my, you talk
I die, you smile, you laugh, I cry
And only, a girl like you could be lonely
And it's a crying shame, if you would think the same
A boy like me's just irresistible

So if your lonely, why'd you say you're not lonely
Oh your a silly girl, I know I hurt it so
It's just like you to come and go
And know me, no you don't even know me
Your so sweet to try oh my, you caught my eye
A girl like you's just irresistible

SJB1701E

Week 1 Day 0 Its actually been a few days but she still contacts me after telling me she needed a break. She initiated contact with me today twice. I kept it brief. She still insists its a break and seemed mad that I was treating it as a break up. Let her be mad. I told her I wasn't keeping any false hopes (even if thats a lie). The irrational part of my brain tells me its only a break. The logical part tells that part to shut up. I don't know. I can keep NC if she will actually take the break she wants to take and stop talking to me.

http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...tml#post891371

ihatewestseneca

Just ignore her, or tell her, "you wanted a break, what is there to talk about?" then thats it.

ihatewestseneca

Didn't feel like starting a new thread... i havent cried about my whole situation since... i guess it first happened...

goodness, whats wrong with me? maybe im just tired, or stressed about all the papers i have to write... but yeah, i guess it all just overflowed on me... man, i really miss her... i just wish i could really understand what she was thinking, and i really dont want to believe that we didn't have something special from her point of view. i dont want to believe that its all the same to her and her new guy. I dunno, its just a damn shame, we got along so well... just when i got absolutely comfortable that she wouldn't ever do this to me... sigh... as bad as it sounds... i hope karma is real, i hope she feels this one day... and at the same time i dont.

Tell me im crazy, but i still want her back...

jpm247

West my man,

You have been doing really really well. I've been logged onto this site everyday for the last 2 weeks, just reading up on how we are all doing and what stage of this breakup BS we are all in. You are doing great, you've just had a moment when its all caught up with you. You've been so busy, working out, hanging out with new people that you've managed to block it out well. all thats happened is that the emotion you've bottled up has come out.

I cried last saturday night, thinking of my ex, and how much i miss her. We got along amazingly well, but she broke up with me. She will miss you, you are a catch. But as the advice that you and the others have been giving is keep on the path, you'll have the bad moments, but keep going. I've heard its worth it, so i am going to keep going. I miss her so much, but its time to keep thinking about you, as you have been doing.

You are a salmon in the sea of tuna.

Salmon are rare in this sea, and sometimes a girl won't realise that she had a salmon until shes been or is going out with a tuna.

Keep digging deep, we are all in this together. Keep posting on here too, as it keeps me going over in England!!

SJB1701E

Well I lasted long. A whole whopping 30 odd hours before I caved. I ignored 4 text messeges before I caved. But now I'm at Day 0 still after drunk dialing her last night. I knew I was going to do something stupid before I started drinking. So I drank to give me the excuse to do it and make it easier to convince myself it was the right thing. Well drunk dialing someone and accusing them of cheating at 1am is definately not the right thing to do. She didnt seem too upset, but not too happy either. If she ever actually was considering still being with me after this 1 month "break" I just gave her a good excuse not to and I hurt myself in the process. If she did cheat on me, I think I deserve her honesty for all I've ever done for her. Its only the first week and I feel like hell. I just want to cry but I can't. I just really miss her. I've gone longer than this without seeing her, but this is the first time I'm not sure that I'll ever see her again.

jpm247

SJB -

It will get better. I had to delete my ex's number and all the texts i had from her so i don't contact her when i'm drunk as it doesn't do you any favours.

Your still in the raw emotion stage, so don't beat yourself up for contacting her, just try not to again. I know its not easy, but it will save you from yourself.

i cried last weekend as i missed my ex so much, its only natural. When i last saw my ex on new years eve and i got out of her car with my stuff for the last time, i just totally broke down and didn't know what to do with myself.

So don't feel bad for feeling a bit messed up, just try not to contact her, as when you do you open up the wounds of hurt.

Keep going, everyone on here will help as best they can.

I still think of my ex everyday, and i haven't seen her for 7 weeks, but i know it will get better!!

ihatewestseneca

Thanks... today was a much better day, even after i was done crying i felt better... its weird. They should call it post break-up Bipolar syndrome or something.

jiltedgirl

Hey guys,

It's almost been a month now of NC for me. Sadly, I still think of him everyday, but with less frequency and not with strong feelings as before. I've felt good this past week, concentrating on doing well in shool...until I woke up today. I woke up with that horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach, which I haven't felt in a while.

It's not like he's the first thing on my mind anymore, but today he was. It seems that I'm in an awful rut today. I felt even worse when I saw later how he'll talk to our friends, but doesn't care to check up on me, not that that should matter or anything.

Even though I know it's for the best and that it would never have worked out, the truth is that I still miss him. I miss talking to him. I wish I could see him. I'm reminded of him everytime I see a couple walk by holding hands. I can't help think: "That used to be us."


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ISneezeFunny

it's ok! you're doing well! your goal is 3 months!!! trust me, look back at the end of the second month and look back on your posts. you'll think "did I REALLY say that?"