I just had this idea after reading Mik's post.

How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?

This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!

What about the rest of you?

OverDozed

this'll be my last semester in college...i want all those feelings i had with her be all gone...today and tommmmooroooow i'd be thinking nothing but myself.....ei! ist that being selfish?tell me......

like ive said, alive but not living....

*smiles*

roogirl

No it's not being selfish at all. As a matter of fact, thinking of yourself is the very least you can do, especially while you go through this horrible phase. We all need to be our own best friend, and other people will be more than happy to come along and help you through.

roogirl

I have reached day 41 of no contact. Even though I feel like some days I take 3 steps back and 1 forward, over the past couple of days something has awakened inside of me - I'm free! No more bullying, no more walking on eggshells, no more control, no more yelling, no more humiliating 'jokes' in front of his friends at my expense, no more manipulation, no more emotional blackmail - all gone!

I feel like I've been let out of a cage. Suddenly I'm starting to remember all the reasons why I turned my back on this relationship in the first place. You forget so easily during your phase of heartbreak, and idealise them, put them on a pedestal, and yearn for something so badly that it doesn't even enter your mind that this person was very bad for you.

There is light at the other end of the tunnel, my fellow no-contacters. Keep going, it's the hardest thing you'll ever do but it is so very liberating all at the same time.

Maggie83

I think there are alot of people similar to me on this site, ive seen so many threads from people that are at my stage of a break up....it doesnt matter how long you went out it still hurts.

Reading the posts i think alot of people are at the stage where they, know they should let it go but are scared to say, thats it this person is out of my life for good...no matter what happens.

n/c is extremly hard...what you cant have you want i.e you know you cant call so you have to fight the urge!! i suppose its a bit like that with regards to our ex's

Romefalls19

I agree Maggie...I'm at the point where I know I need to let go, and I am starting too, it is very hard. So far it's been 2 weeks with no myspace page stalking and 8 days of NC...It's a long road but I feel as though I am getting better and better. Night time doesn't really affect me anymore too much, but the mornings are still very hard for some reason.

Maggie83

i mean i said it but i cant do it...ive fought with myself all day not to contact her, again, same as yesterday...all id like is to see her face and hear her voice, its madness, she'll probably tell me where to go or not answer!

Im dissapointed i feel like this but i do theres no denying it! three months and here i am same boat!!

Romefalls19

And here I was thinking that after that amount of time things would get easier...I'm doing everything I possibly can to kill time and not think about her and have the urge. I have a wonderful girl that likes me a lot she says, but I can't seem to give the attention she deserves. I really feel its unfair that we are left here trying to pick up the pieces while they are out there happy and fine...

George_1950

When you get lost and wandering around, you need to recall the hotlinks on tananiman's signature, or ash123 principles of breaking up. By definition, the dumper is holding the power because she loved you less. Once again, the dumper loves the dumpee less.

Romefalls19

ehh..I don't know about loved me less as much as couldn't deal with my jealousy anymore. That was the reason we broke up, it wasn't because of any other reason than me driving her away with the constant jealousy fights and accusing of stupid things.

George_1950

Romefalls19: We have to be able to differentiate between the reason and the excuse.