Originally Posted by schwartzyms

I broke up with my ex almost 2 months ago because she was cheating on me. Now I still miss her, but I have found another girl who is 20x better, she alot nicer, kinder and sweeter. The point is, when you get dumped, cheated on... etc, it's just a sign that there is a better guy/girl out there for you, you just have to go out and find him/her.

Originally Posted by kuulski

Well Guys I have been doing great until today. Dont want to beat myself up about it but my ex emailed me after 4 MONTHS! This is how it went down lol. First email was a Hi in the title with no body to the email I email back hello. She emails back just wanted to check on you and the baby and see how you guys are doing. I give her a quick snapshot of what has been going on with my daughter in her new school etc.. Next is so what u been up to? gave her a quick snapshot of that stuff working out diet etc.. HELP! lol.
I feel I have been progressing sooo much I really dont want to see it ruined cause she decided to contact me. Me and her did not have nasty falling out or anything just went through allot myself personally allot of death and it strained our relationship so we parted ways. But recently I met somebody she works with by chance on a internet dating site once i realized they worked at the same job, had the same manager, etc.. I cut the girl off I dont have any animoisty torwards my ex I am hurt but not bitter. Recently I had been really struggling with missing her and I do miss her badly but I dont want any recurrence or setbacks. Do I love her ? Yes Do I miss her ? Yes would I try to work it out? Probably but I dont want to walk into a bear trap which is what I feel is happening. I will keep my distance and the emails to a minimum. I WILL NOT call her or email her directly myself if she emails I will respond but I wont be as the other post says a WUSS lol.

Originally Posted by Numb

I just had this idea after reading Mik's post.

How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?

This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!

What about the rest of you?

Originally Posted by vivia12

Sorry i shouldve did half a quote,new to this thing. Kuuslki,youre in the same situation as I, you start healing and moving on and thats when the Ex contacts you. Now many would say dont reply dont answer,and thats the true way of doing it, but its not easy, what you did,very limited contact is right on the ball. I dont answer his calls,most of the time,i'm hard person to reach anyway. But no i dont want to regress on my healing either. First and formost,YOU come first, so if youre not ready to talk to her, just 'miss' her calls,wait a day or tw0 and reply with a short,but happy email. Theres lots of threads about what to do when they contact you,many of them says make it sweet short and happy, Its noy playing games,its protecting your self. The msg you want to send is "I'm moving on living my fabulous life without you",even if youre not and is actually obsessing about them like I did,its not as bad lately. The heart,in my case, takes a long time to heal so why regress?? And you should see someone new even if they work at the same place your ex does. Hey what better ways for them to see that you moved on. Keep up the good work,let me know how it goes,youre not alone in this!