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How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?
This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!
Hi Roogirl
I have read back through your post and you have been through quite a journey. You seem like you are very strong , good on you.
The holiday season is hard for everyone in this situation so don't feel alone , the feeling is totally normal. Stay strong and don't break NC and go back to square one.
And remember we are all on here if you ever need someone to talk to.
Here's to 2008 and your new life :-)
Oh I wish I was so strong, but unfortunately I'm not. I've been secretely holding on to the hope that he might come back, but he won't. If he wanted to come back he would have by now. I miss him so much. I divorced my cheating husband (hooray! that's a good thing). But divorcing him was like a walk in the park in comparison to this. I think I got involved with someone too soon afterward, but boy I loved this man so much.
well the day before yesterday was my first day of NC. i fell asleep holding my phone and carry it in my pocket at all times. its like i know that after what hes done things will never be the same. but i still feel in denial. this all happened so fast. i think NC will help me move on. bc he already has a new girlfriend (the one he cheated on me with) after less than one week. the only thing is i have to get my dog tomorro and some couches. i hope hes not there bc im scared of what i may say. i dont know how i will feel in time but right now i feel betrayed and alone yet still in love.
as well as i'm doing, it makes me wonder...it's only been 3 weeks of NC from a 3 year relationship. i'm already feeling...decently. funny how the human mind works.
some people would say YOU DIDNT LOVE HER. actually...i did. i really did. i guess i get over people easily.
Thanks for this update; I expect roogirl and xcookiemonstorx will be feeling better, if not much better, around late January. Each day can be a painful process and there needs to be some positive things to do (coping strategies), other than tears and self-pity. But all of it is part of the cure for heartache, it seems.
well the day before yesterday was my first day of NC. i fell asleep holding my phone and carry it in my pocket at all times. its like i know that after what hes done things will never be the same. but i still feel in denial. this all happened so fast. i think NC will help me move on. bc he already has a new girlfriend (the one he cheated on me with) after less than one week. the only thing is i have to get my dog tomorro and some couches. i hope hes not there bc im scared of what i may say. i dont know how i will feel in time but right now i feel betrayed and alone yet still in love.
Well done for your first day of NC. Take it one day at a time, some days will be easier than others and other days will be absolute murder, take it from me, but you must remain strong. I can understand why you feel betrayed that happened to me too. Let them have each other, they deserve each other. One day it will be this new girl's turn to cry when your ex cheats on her too. It will only be a matter of time.
Well guys, it's only been my 3rd day of complete No Contact. I still carry my phone and check it every 2 hours or so, still hoping she might call or something. It's pretty pathetic, I feel kinda low about it. But for now, these 2 days have been great. I mean if she wanted to get back together or wanted to be friends, she would've contacted me . Really sad thing is that I'm still in love with her. I just don't know why she started to completely ignore me these past days, it's been murder . Well guys, here's to a new year and a new life, I wish everyone the best of luck.
Well guys, it's only been my 3rd day of complete No Contact. I still carry my phone and check it every 2 hours or so, still hoping she might call or something. It's pretty pathetic, I feel kinda low about it. But for now, these 2 days have been great. I mean if she wanted to get back together or wanted to be friends, she would've contacted me . Really sad thing is that I'm still in love with her. I just don't know why she started to completely ignore me these past days, it's been murder . Well guys, here's to a new year and a new life, I wish everyone the best of luck.
Keep going with the no contact, I know it's murder, and you are not pathetic, you are behaving like someone who has just had their heart broken, we have all been through that. I still check my email and my yahoo about 10 times a day, all with the same result, a bit fat nothing. I think we do this because we are looking for ways to numb the pain.
Here is something that might help you, and I quote: 'Quite honestly, they will be more intrigued by the fact that you didnt call than if you did. Not keeping the lines of communication open says a lot about somebody. It says they've moved on and are not interested in spending their valuable time on someone who doesn't want to be with them' taken from the book 'it's called a breakup because it's broken' by Greg Behrendt and Amiira Rutola-Behrendt. This is a book written primarily for the girl but I think this quote applies with both sexes.
It is hard, but it beats the alternative; don't think about what your ex is doing and do whatever else you have to do to re-establish yourself. And check this out: http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...sh-114179.html
. Really sad thing is that I'm still in love with her. I just don't know why she started to completely ignore me these past days, it's been murder 
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