The NC Calendar

Numb · Aug 30, 2007, 02:34 AM

I just had this idea after reading Mik's post.

How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?

This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!

What about the rest of you?

nickshehe · May 24, 2008, 03:55 AM

Well - I didn't reply..
I got a call from a private no. shortly after - there seemed to be someone on the other side of the line but no one said anything..Im not sure if it was her..
It's her birthday tomorrow - so, last night was a great way to kick off the drama fest that is this weekend.

P.S: She seems to have deleted a comment she left on my myspace when we were together, and I think she removed me from her friends..
cool.

nickshehe · May 24, 2008, 06:19 AM

Got another one just now..I dont get what she's trying to accomplish.
I feel like she's taunting me in some way..I'm still in disbelief at the way she walked away from us :\

losingit77 · May 24, 2008, 06:53 AM

God, nicksheshe! You are unbelievably strong! You should be really proud of yourself. Really, what the heck is going on with her? Well, nothing you need to concern yourself with I guess. You don't need the drama. This girl is starting to seem really confused and really immature. Good for you for sticking up for yourself and your own best interests.

You've played your hand well. I bet she's feeling like you're the one who dumped her now instead of the other way around. Way to go!

bigbird213 · May 24, 2008, 09:18 AM

Nick,

Hang in there, you'll be able to handle it. You know what you need to do, the struggle is making sure you have the strength to do it. If she tries again, leave the phone home and go out. Go for a drive, a run, anything...Just get away. It always helps me out to just get out and go (and listen to some good music)

Good luck, you know where to come if you need a hand.

NorthernNiceGuy · May 24, 2008, 09:54 PM

Hey guys....

just wondering if any of you have gone on any dates and how they went. I went on one tonight, it started off pretty good, went to a movie, but than we went to grab some food later and i felt like it bombed. Just conversation started to get strained and i don't think either of us were enjoying it a lot by the end. And I found myself comparing how effortlessly my ex and I could talk. Just took a hit to the ol ego, one that i didn't really need right now.

jammyb · May 25, 2008, 02:36 AM

Alright guys, I'm a bit of a newbie on here. My gf broke up with me toward the end of march and I think she's with another guy now. I'm not 100% on that though as I don't have any definite evidence and she has said there isn't anyone, but I just get that feeling. We haven't spoken apart from when I had to go to our old house (where she still lives) to pick my stuff up. I've read through alot of the posts here and I have to say that they have helped no end. I'm on day 25 of no contact and apart from the odd hiccup I've been doing okay. It's the mornings that are the real killer.

Anyway, to the point, the whole no contact thing is pranging me out. Though I find that it's good to forget about her, she hasn't initiated contact with me once since we broke up. It's hard to believe that after 2.5 years she's just forgotten about me and doesn't even wanna speak to me. We didn't end on great terms, but we tried to make it amicable. I've seen loads of people on here saying that their ex's have tried to contact them but I've had nothing. Is anyone else in a similar situation? Personally I'd be happy to never speak to her again, but a little something to let me know she still cares would be nice. Anyone else know what I'm talking about?

nickshehe · May 25, 2008, 02:56 AM

jammyb, I get the contact here and there..and trust me - her contacting me doesn't mean she cares. It's probably her trying to drown her guilt in some way - I dont know..I could do without the contact though..Everytime she makes contact I feel like im taking a step back even though im not replying..Just hang in there man...

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p.s : ex's birthday today..hope she isn't expecting a happy birthday from me.

jammyb · May 25, 2008, 03:29 AM

Yeh I can see what you mean about drowning the guilt. Though I don't think my ex really has what you and me might call "emotions", not that I'm bitter or anything lol. At least it seems like that. Unfortunately its my birthday first so i won't get the pleasure of letting her know I've supposedly forgotten about her, than again it might be interesting to see if i get anything from her... hmmm.

Incidentally NorthernNiceGuy, I have had a thing going with one of my new housemates, and I'm also supposed to be dating a girl i used to work with at some point in the near future, and I've actually found that the mere fact that Im with those girls tends to be a bit depressing for some reason. I cant put my finger on why, but it makes me feel a little more lonely; maybe its cos the new girls remind us of our exes or something, who knows?

jpm247 · May 25, 2008, 04:09 AM

jammy,

i know what you mean. im not intending to date too much at all til im over my ex, as im still in the comparing stage, which i don't want to be, but i still do it. no pressure tho, you'll find someone when your not looking for it. which is how ive met my exes. wasn't looking and then they turned up.

and i know you say you'd like a bit of contact to say she cares about you, but i had that, and it made me feel worse.

you don't need it, and don't contact her at all.

JM

kaneda · May 25, 2008, 04:36 AM

Okay day 8 is going good.This is my longest NC ever! A week and a hour ago i was in tears,hugging my cat as if my life depended on it.Today - just got back from work,snacking and posting here finally



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