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How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?
This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!
If she is still contacting you then you need to tell her that you cannot be in contact anymore. The outcome can only be positive. It may make her focus her mind and see what she has lost, it may not, but you will start to heal over time.
Although getting her back should not be your main aim. NC is about you getting yourself back.
Yeah, getting her back WAS my main aim for about 2 months or so, but she made some big mistakes with her (ex boyfriend now) and it made me look at who she really was, instead of looking at her like how i want her to be. But in my circumstance, it doesn't matter if she's in my life or not anymore. I'm starting to heal more day by day
Anytime I miss him, I just remind myself that he's not the same person he used to be or the person I thought he was so what's the point in calling him? It will only make things worse....and frankly, he doesn't deserve my time or energy...let them keep guessing forever...they don't know that you're sitting here thinking about them 24 hours a day..the only way they'll know that is if you call them and tell them...you want to NOT call them so they can start to wonder what the heck you're up to.
you are soooright suelle,about thinking about them 24/7 i thought i was the only one who did that,obsessivelyy think about them,but with NC you can think about them but dont act on it and still protect yourself its a win win situation. I'm on let see two weeks, hmm, maybe almost ttwo weeks cuz i did sent him a email attachment w/out writing anything a week ago , i guess thats breaking NC but i didnt answer his calls, which was once every two week i see, with no messages. Y dont they bother to leave msg if they want to talk to you? but really most of our contact is thru the phone which is no more. now Xmas is comming up and i'm trying hard not to email hi merry Xmas, but NC if youre dedicated is the only way for the rejected to be on equal level with the rejecter, not that we never were equal to them but it seems like they have all the power when they did the rejecting,by doing NC, youre saying, fine you dont want me? You cant have me!! %$#@@@! oops,sorry got a little angry there
Yes I too would like to think that at 4 months I will not be thinking about getting her back.Hopefully by that stage I won't want her back.Right now I do want her back,but not at any price.
thats deep, i want him back to but not at any price, words to live by way to go!!
The thoughts of them will gradually diminish. It has to happen, its pretty obvious. It's hard but its worth it in the end. Also the relationship is over in most cases, so why should there be contact. Keep at it folks.
I can appreciate your position. It has been my experience here though, that making healthy decisions, is the best way to go, and healing is the best way to be healthy. It is also my experience that limited contact, and even no contact, has brought the exes back, but in every case so far, The dumpee no longer felt the same, and was going to move on, or the dumpee is seeing the ex in a very different way, and no longer wishes to go back. This has been seen over and over, by even the most hardcore determined dumpees who have posted here. I can only put forth the facts, and stress, its better to get your own act together, and then look at the rest of the world, and think, before you make your next move. Its also interesting that those who have moved on, don't hate the ex for dumping them, as they move to better lives, and relationships, and I think thats the best outcome. I point out even in your own case Radan, your story is incomplete as of now, but we look forward to your update, and I honestly hope you get what you want.
but i didnt answer his calls, which was once every two week i see, with no messages. Y dont they bother to leave msg if they want to talk to you? but really most of our contact is thru the phone which is no more. now Xmas is comming up and i'm trying hard not to email hi merry Xmas, but NC if youre dedicated is the only way for the rejected to be on equal level with the rejecter, not that we never were equal to them but it seems like they have all the power when they did the rejecting,by doing NC, youre saying, fine you dont want me? You cant have me!! %$#@@@! oops,sorry got a little angry there 
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