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How about if we use this thread to count the NC days, all of us? Each one would mention how long he/she's been maintaining the NC period and how he/she feels with time.
Maybe in some way this can help us all (including me)?
This is my first NC day.. Afternoon here, so far didn't even touch my phone. I don't know how I feel, but I'm not that miserable, I have a goal and thinking about it, NOT HER!
BTW, Day 20 of NC! Not contacting him. Today's his b-day, but I'm not calling him. I don't care if he's hurt by it. He hurt me by walking out of our life together. So, whatever. He wants me out of his life, then I'm out of his life...and he's out of mine. No happy b-day from me!
CRISIS ALERT: Unbelievable!!! 21 days of NC and guess who's call my cell right now!!! MY EX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! As you can see by my post right above, I was feeling a little down today. But I"m better now and stronger and I'm not playing into his game. If he has something to say he can say it to my voicemail..ofcourse, he didn't leave a voicemail.
Agh, why torture me? You wanted me out of your life! I'm out of your life! I didn't answer. Score 1 for me. But it hurts. I thought I'd be happier if he called, but it just makes it harder and brings all the emotions up again.
Go back and re-read the last couple pages of this thread and you'll see how strong you were. Knowing you did that a mere few days ago should empower you to keep at it. You know you can stay strong and get over this...
I know what you mean about torture. As much as I feel like I'd like to know shes thinking about me if she were to call me I'd panic. I wouldn't know what to do. It would throw me right back into: Shes going to think im an if I don't answer or I'll end up depressed if I do.
Just take comfort knowing you meant enough to him for him to not just forget about you and that you know your strong enough to move on. If he didn't leave a voicemail, it wasn't that important.
I thought I'd be happier if he called, but it just makes it harder and brings all the emotions up again.
After a while you will just be annoyed, just hang in there, your still doing great, because you didn't answer, or respond back. That's real progress, and you handled it the right way. Now cope with those feelings that were dredged up. Pedicure anyone????
Well, now I'm sitting her sobbing hysterically. Haven't done that in a month. Now he's sent a text message. It reads:
"Yesterday was my 26th b-day. The same age you were when I met you. I miss you a lot. I hope ur well. I hope you don't hate me, but you probably do. Love."
I didn't respond. Than 10 minutes later I get another text message:
"Say hi to Ichi and Henry (our cats) for me. They were kinda mine too u know."
Now, I'm a crying mess. But I'm not responding. I'll get through this. I love him and I want him back in my arms. But nothing in that communication was enough to ever make that happen. Sadness!
Atleast by my reaction (crying) I know that no matter how strong I am, I know i'm not that strong enough yet to talk to him or deal with him like a "friend". Sad, but it's a good reality check. I guess I'm not over it yet, but i'm making progress. The old me would have jumped at the chance to have contact with him..any kind of contact, positive or negative. Contact with him right now would only be negative so I know i'm doing the right thing.
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