You know.... I just realized how unattractive I am .... I think I am okay with that. There is nothing I can do about it. There are beautiful women all around me. I can at least be thankful that because I am so ugly, I will never get AIDS or HIV, herpes, or have an unwanted pregancy.

How do you feel about yourself....

Fr_Chuck

Well first no one is that ugly, go to walmart and sit for a while and you will soon see there are alot of people alot worst than you. Most likely you just beleive you are not good looking, or at worst, merely need some new hair style, make up and/or clothes to make a person look totally different.

And of course as a adult ( assuming you are) people soon find that looks are alot less important than as a teen, because people latter judge you by who are you inside

Altenweg

What makes you think you are ugly? If you are kind, caring, and loving then you have an inner beauty that will shine through, if you let it. I think that maybe you're being a little hard on yourself, everyone has things about themselves that they wish they could change, even the gorgeous people.

People will see you as you see yourself, so hold your head high, like you mean it, and show them what you are all about. And stop thinking that you're ugly, otherwise that's how others will see you, true or not.

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

No one is ugly.

It's society that has this picture perfect image of what beauty is.

Jesushelper76

I agree 100 percent with this post. 100 stars if I could rate.
Everybody has beauty about them both on the inside and outside. Whether you see this in yourself or not.

N0help4u

Walk down the street next to me and you will think you look great compared to me!

simoneaugie

Wow, that is a huge question. How do I feel? Hmmm. I think we need to look at what criteria makes a person attractive, or unattractive.

Criticism/compliment
Touched up magazine photos/a trip to the market
Television/a trip to the mall
Dirty looks, snide comments/wolf whistles

Those are our cues from the outside world. They do not reflect who we are inside, but unless you're incredibly secure in yourself, you are affected. Beautiful women are not affected less, and frequently have less time to reflect on a reaction before some other guy says something, or ogles, or whispers to his friend while staring at you.

No matter how many words or pictures or memories we attach to the subject, no matter how we wish to intellectualize it, humans are mammals/animals. Reproduction is paramount to the continuation of our DNA. If someone is "attractive," that someone is a potential mate. Wanting to be beautiful is a continuation of the reproductive urge.

Today's men are usually attracted to today's standard of an "acceptable" mate. Evenly placed fine features combined with a body that looks girlish (usually with big boobs.) An extremely rare combination. That "what is acceptable" notion changes over time, remember Reuben's paintings? Back when Ivan The Terrible of Russia was to be married, a long line of women was placed before him. Their teeth were blacked out and they all wore bulky clothing. His main goal was to find one he liked that was fat, by today's standards.

You are a woman, right? Forget the fashion magazines. Forget the skewed images the television shows you. Forget the unthinking, judgemental and unkind comments given by both women and men. Remember that no matter what negative imput you get, all human beings are valuable. Cute men are good for both reproduction and the moving of heavy furniture. And the ugly ones can get you pregnant too. (Relax guys, I adore men.)

All people want and need love and acceptance. We need to have our worth validated as much or more than our attractiveness as reproductive beings. Love them for the person they are, and they will love you (although some are too full of fear to admit it, even to themselves.) Love yourself, and put the fear of not fitting in aside. Treat your body with respect and keep it in good working order. Having kids is fine, but loving both yourself and others as a primary goal, will serve you better.

Sorry, I went on and on. To answer your question, I feel average, sometimes better, sometimes worse. I have to step back and put my fear of non-acceptance aside frequently. Helping someone else always seems to put things back in perspective.

For those who wish to disagree with me, go ahead, in a post. Remember that what is said is frequently an opinion only. Disagreeing with an opinion is not done in the "comments on this post" section.

BABRAM

You should be avoiding disease anyway. Pregnancy should happen only with the one that loves you enough to be responsible for the family. To the crux of the issue though, it is important that you maintain a healthy self-esteem. Very few people are so conceited worldwide, to find it important enough to marry a supermodel or pageant contestant. Be yourself, maintain overall good health, and you'll be just fine.

Satisfied with pizza and chocolate, in moderation.

Homegirl 50

First of all, contracting HIV, STD and unwanted pregancies can and does happen to so called "unattractive" women. I have seen a lot of so-called "unattractive" women who are in relationships or happily married.
I would say your problem is not your looks but your self esteem.
To answer your question, I consider myself OK looking, but above that, I think I'm a pretty cool person.

svatnsdal

This is not nicely asked! Someone who thinks they are 'ugly' doesn't stop them from picking up a sexual disease. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but the beauty is inside, not out.
Just go look at Paris Hilton and think how lucky you are you look nothing like her!