I am currentlly with a man who is married but has been separated from his wife for 2 years. He is finally starting divorce proceedings. When he and his wife first separated she took out a restraining order to the effect that I cannot be around their 3 year old daughter. It has been almost 2 years and now she has been coming to my house with the child; starting arguments with the child's father. Is there anything I can do. The police told me that she is the one violating the restraining order by bringing the child around me. I have taken out a warrant against her for trespassing. Is there anything else I can do? I do not want to get into trouble because she is the one acting childish.

Just out of curiousity did you two get together while he was still with her? If so, you can't blame her for being bitter and wanting to start fights. That's goes with the territory of being the other woman.

However, if she got a restraining order against you, what did you do that would make her need one? I am not sure they give them out without there being a valid reason. But if she is breaking the restarinig order as the courts what can be done about that. If you don't want her near your home, and she is being abusive, you could get an order against her.

They had broken up when I got with them. She accused him of rape and had him put in jail. And he and I got together . We just had a child together 3 months ago. And I think she wants him back. When they first separated she let the child come and stay with him while he was with me; thinking that he would come back to her. When he told her the marriage was over and that he didn't want to be with her; he just wanted to take care of his daughter; she got pissed off and went to court and lied and said I slashed her tires and that I called her house and threatned her and her child and the judge believed her. I have done none of these things. I have kids myself. She's told numerous lies and she's being believed.

Then you need to get an order against her so she can't come to your house. Doculemt her visits, use a camera if you need to, then file the complaint.

If you read that restraining order you will see that it clearly states that she must also stay away from you and not attempt to contact in any way. It also clearly states what to do if this happens.
I suggest an outside security camera they run approx 50.00 for one in color and have voice activation on them that records everything. In this way you can have your proof
Now for the child of his is there not a way all of you can sit down with a mediator and come to some terms for the child's sake. Hopefully sooner or later as adults the three of you can figure out something to stop the fights.

We are going through something similar. My son's ex went to prison. Her parents took out a restraining order against him. He hasn't seen them or spoken to them in 3 years. Almost anyone can take out a restraining order. It appears that it's not valid half the time. In his case he is suppose to report to court on Tues. I feel certain it will not hold up in court. He was on his way to pick up his daughter. They took it out so that they could buy time, get a lawyer and try to figure out how they can keep him from getting his daughter who they want to keep. They are drug abuses and the man physically abuses the women in the family and yet it's made to look like our son is the problem when he hasn't done a thing. I understand your pain and frustration. Sounds like this vengeful ex of your boyfreind wants to aggravate you. You will win in the end. Just don't lose your temper--stay cool. Good luck.