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Please help. I'm at wits end. So bad it's effecting my marriage and motherhood. I am ready to go somewhere but nowhere to go....
Recently moved into a newly built house on acreage(another story but nothing good). Neighbor allowed their dogs to run, cornered husband in port-a-potty during building, chased our 10 yr old cat up a tree, saw 2 of 3 dogs at our rabbit pens trying to get rabbits, our 1st 2 were killed during construction and assumed it was done by coyotes, growled and lunged at dh and dd, etc., etc. Husband spoke to them 3 times and on the 4th time told them no more, there are leash laws and we can protect our animals, livestock as we see fit. The woman was upset that she'd moved to the country to let her dogs run free.
Then the day Rock Concert with amps that went on for 8-9 hours and when we called law enforcement, they said the noise ordinance went into effect at 10PM but we have to listen to their crap music (a friend was over and it was awful music and loud). Called our commissioner and said the noise ordinance was not enforced properly. Another time the male neighbor creeps out of the tree line when I have a service guy at the house. The woman shows up at 9:30 on a Friday night cutting bushes on the property line peering into our house from her property. Then we have a note attached to our gate leading into our property accusing us of stealing their statue, they'd forgive us if it's returned and it's a Federal offense (what?) to steal/take a religious icon. Then 3-4 days later while we are out on our property we see this statue on their property, facing our property and it's put up while we were out of view so know they are watching us from the tree line. Law enforcement, whom was called said it was odd that our house is here and theirs is way up front and why'd they put it at the corner, facing us. The man shows up a few days later when I'm returning home and puts a flower on the statue so again know he/they are watching our comings and goings. The woman shows up again and replaces the flower back as it's blown over in the last 3 days and once again does it while we are gone.
There is more and difficult to explain except they have to make a huge effort to walk to this statue. Understand it's on their land but directed at us in our direction, no idea what it is or means and the watching is getting to me so bad that I want to move! We left our last place due to smallness of house, wanted more land and left behind neighbors there that were dealing drugs! Now we have no idea who or what these people are about; the man did tell my dh during a "dog talk" that their son had mental problems and we have a young daughter so VERY concerned. Is this harrassment, stalking?
I have no support or anywhere to turn to. Dh is doing his best to cope with me, we are getting trees and bamboo planted but it's a length of over 500 ft and a fence is too expensive (we can not afford a none see thru fence, already have barbed wire fencing as we'll have animals) and plants take too long. I am desperate. Oh, yes, there are property covenants (no homeowner assoc. but recorded) that state no noise, dogs running or structures within 50 ft of the property lines. The statue is sitting on a wood stump so could be a 'structure'. I'm mad, angry, want to get even, causing our family a lot of grief, move and feel I'm at my last straw.
Any help, suggestions, support would be so greatly appreciated. If there are sites you'd recommend, please do. Thank you for taking the time to read this. I need HELP!!!
Edited to answer and input more from previous post responses. THANK YOU for reading!
Oh, yes, there are property covenants that state...
If there are property covenants there there must be a property owners association that you can appeal to.
But frankly, rather then getting desparate and upset, put up a fence. it may be expensive, but it will give you the best peace of mind. You can put up lower cost wire fencing for for a few hundred dollars.
Can't affort a fence and camera is in the works but too far from house to corner of property where occurances are happening. Am documenting. Thank you for your posts.
there are leash laws and we can protect our animals, livestock as we see fit. !
If there are leash laws, who did you call to "protect your animals"? Who did you sue when your rabbits died? Did you document any of those occurrences? Do you take pictures? You mentioned covenants?? Who have YOU made a complaint to?? No, I don’t think you did any of those… Don’t lay down for your neighbors, they’ll step on you.
My advice, in a nutshell, can be summed up in this trite little phrase: An armed society is a polite society. You must DEFEND YOUR HOME! You aren’t! It’s a shame that you have to – but YOU have to. Cops will only RE-act if there’s a crime. You don’t want to wait for one to occur.
I’m talking about intimidation. Right now, YOU are the ones being intimidated. You need to change that equation. If you’re not up to the task, then you must move. Let me say that again, because what I’m proposing is dangerous if you can’t pull it off. If you can’t, or won't change your behavior – you MUST move. If you can’t, or won't spend money, then read no further - you’re doomed. There ain’t no such thing as a free lunch.
They’ve got a statue looking at you? Get a bigger one, and look at them. Put a video camera there, and anywhere else you’re having problems. They can be run on battery packs, and activated by motion sensors (along with huge spotlights). A big fence is NOT a bad idea. These days, many states allow people to carry concealed weapons. Go buy a big hand gun. Send them the receipt. Take classes and get your permit to carry it concealed. Send them a copy. Do you drive a Volvo? Sell it, and buy a Hummer. Do you get my drift?
I'm a sucker for retribution stuff when it comes to bullies. I hate Jennifer Lopez, but she's in a movie that I enjoyed immensely. Can't remember the name of it. She's a beautiful young wife and mother when she discovers that her husband is an abusing and philandering SOB. Well, for the first half of the movie, she get's beaten up pretty badly by this bully......
But, she changed her equation. And, she kicked some *ss. I loved it. I hope you kick some *ss!
Please help. I'm at wits end. So bad it's effecting my marriage and motherhood. I am ready to go somewhere but nowhere to go....
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