I'll try to keep this short... Last May, I signed a rental lease with my girlfriend at the time. We were both working and agreed on the usual 50/50 split of all expenses. Four days after moving in together, she quit her job. She was on an experimental treatment for a thyroid condition and the treatments were debilitating at best. We lived together until Nov. 1 when I moved her back to New York to her mom's house. We had to break the lease on the house which might be an unresolved legal matter if I go the route of court. She has since gone back to work as a biochemist for a large corporation.

I spent over $5,000 supporting her during the time we lived together. Everything from specialty dog food for her dog to paying for her vehicle repairs to food, medications & vitamins, to rent and all utilities. She has all the paperwork (lease, bills, etc) in her possession but I can get copies of everything. Unfortunately, I paid everything in cash and have no banking statements as proof I personally paid everything. We did everything through her account. I have information about her like her social security #, driver's license #, her mother's address and phone #, and her employer's contact info.

First off, do I have a case and secondly, I could use any and all advice on how to proceed. Thanks in advance... Jerry

Hello Jerry:

I'll try to keep this short: NO!

You spent $5,000 supporting her? That's what people do for their mates/girlfriends/fiancees/and live in companions. These were not loans then. They don't even look like loans, and you have no promissory note to prove they were loans.

Plus, but for the fact you are not together NOW, you would not even be comtemplating trying to recover. Not true? So, if you were still living together, you would be asking us how to sue her? Right!

That's my take. But what do I know? I'm a convicted felon.

excon

First, you are not really serious, this is a joke ?

No there is no case.

This is called living together, and if you pay all her bills, then you are the provider for her ( but not married)

There is no written contract, there is no agreement verbal or written as to her "borrowing" the money from you. You merely because you were in love or enjoyed living with her paying her bills and buy the dog food for (BOTH) of yours dog. Once you move in her dog is now your dog also.

And yes the broken lease is another issue, was there money due when the lease was broken, who paid it, is it still owed. If she paid the balance owed on the lease, then you would owe her the money, and since both signed the lease, she can hold you liable for that. If she did not pay the amount owed to break the lease, the land lord could still sue both of you for that money.

You need to find a cheaper girlfriend or a rich one to pay your bills.

Thanks for taking the time to respond. Yes, I was serious. I didn't enter the arrangement thinking I'd be supporting her and through the process, she was saying she would pay me back. After discovering she was merely leading me on, it obviously pissed me off enough to consider legal recourse. Thus the cliché, 'live and learn'...

Yes, as a young man I had my share of stories, I went to live in Mexico, for a while, I fell madly in love with this "wonderful" lady. I found my most attractive feature was my money.

As bad as it was to go through it could have been a lot worse and sure you could try to convince Judge Judy how much she owes you but without proof you'd only look silly and still would be out a lot of money.Sometimes we have to chaulk it up to a learning experience and move on.:cool: