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    Why is life so complicated why does everything need to be so messy like why cant life be simple why do people need to like do what they want even if it would hurt someone why do people say things they don't really mean but still say them or if they do mean them why do they need to say it.is life only about money and sex.why do people need to change all the time and what if someone liked someone better the way they were before and they changed completely but change in a bad way what do you do. If you know someone is getting away from you and your losing contact with that person then what. What if someone you like does not notice you. What you do if when you look back you don't know where your at no more.you don't know the last time you had a good time with your family and friends with no fights. I mean when I look back at my life I only remember me buying stuffs how do you know who your real friends are. Oh I am so confused with life help me

    By the way for rubypitbull question at the top well these questions do kind off connect because the truth is that they are actually me ( questions I have answers I need )

    (for rubypitbull I sent a message so check your private messages to know what you asked me)

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    Mar 10, 2007, 05:42 PM
    Jojo, you are kind of running on here and it is a bit difficult to figure out what is going on. There are a lot of questions and they don't seem connected. Honey, I can't help feeling there is some sort of reasoning or a story behind why you are asking all these questions. What happened? Can you explain what is going on that is making you so confused? Did you have your sleepover party last night and did something happen? If I can't get back to you tonight, I will stop by here tomorrow.
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    Mar 10, 2007, 05:46 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by jojo114
    why is life so complicated why does everything need to be so messy like why cant life be simple
    If life were simple, it wouldn't be fun. Take out the bad, and the good doesn't seem good anymore.

    why do people need to like do what they want even if it would hurt someone
    Some people don't think about others. Some things that a person does that hurts you might keep them or someone else from being hurt. Most of the time, it's an accident.

    why do people say things they don't really mean but still say them
    In the heat of the moment, people will say the most effective thing they can think of, whether it's true or not, whether they believe it or not.

    or if they do mean them why do they need to say it
    Because lying to protect somebody's feelings isn't always a good idea. Honesty is usually the best policy. If I have a problem with somebody, I'll let them know about it... to do anything else is to imply that what you don't like is OK.

    .is life only about money and sex.
    Only if you want to make it about that. Life is simply what you decide to make of it.

    why do people need to change all the time
    Everything we see or do changes us. If we don't change, we've stopped learning, and without learning, the rest of our life becomes meaningless... it will all be the same stuff over and over again.

    and what if someone liked someone better the way they were before and they changed completely
    If somebody you're close to changes, then you change too. It may be that the way they change drives the two apart... that's just one of the unfortunate things of life. Eventually, most things we have are lost in some way.

    but change in a bad way what do you do.
    Who's to say what's bad and what's good? No matter how bad it seems to you, it may be a good change for them. You're not responsible for anybody else's life, nor do you have any right to direct it.

    if you know someone is getting away from you and your losing contact with that person then what.
    Most people you meet in life will be temporary. Coworkers, classmates, friends, even family... most people are driven apart to some degree by circumstances throughout life, and it's not always easy to maintain a friendship when the context it was formed in is gone.

    what if someone you like does not notice you.
    That's just part of life. We all see others that we're interested in in some way, but whom we'll never actually know. Remember that there are just as many people looking at you and thinking the same thing.

    what you do if when you look back you don't know where your at no more.
    Then it's time to find something to work towards. Where you are is defined by where you're going. Experience different things until you find something you want, and then work towards that. It's the only way to regain your sense of self.

    you don't know the last time you had a good time with your family and friends with no fights.
    Then it's time to move away from those friends and even that family. Explore, find yourself, and then come back. You never have to spend your life on people who make you unhappy.

    I mean when I look back at my life I only remember me buying stuffs
    You should look for experiences. Things are good while you have them, but they pass. Memories of people, places, deeds... those are what will last.

    how do you know who your real friends are.
    You just... know. It's the absence of doubt as much as anything else.
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    Mar 10, 2007, 07:06 PM
    I think you think too much. I think that it may make sense to you but I think that the things running through your mind is your own choice. If your outlook on life was different you would actually feel different.

    It is good to get all your thoughts and questions on paper. At the same time you can do your best to change the way you think, the way you look at the world and your life will improve and will get better.

    Joe
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    Mar 13, 2007, 11:14 AM
    I believe everything happens for a reason, recently I thought I had quite a few friends, on a site I frequented, it turned out they were all back stabbers, all except one. We have through this become not friends, but very close best friends. She lives far away from me and we feel so close I am going to visit her next month although it is approximately 10 hours flying to get there. If these other so called friends hadn't done what they did (and I won't go into that) we would have never got so close. At the time it upset me a great deal, now I realise how lucky I am that this happened, because this friendship means more to me than all the others put together. Try to look around the corner of every situation.
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    Mar 13, 2007, 11:57 PM
    is life only about money and sex
    No. Unfortunately we need money to live and therefore we are in a sense forced to work. It sucks but a reality. But that is not what life is all about. Pick something and that is what you can make your life about. Me, I picked to make my life about helping people and animals. That's my life, and I probably spend more money then I make, I'm kind of amazed I still have enough to pay bills. Lol. But really life is what you make of it. Sex is just something on the side to enjoy with the one you love. At least that's what it was suppose to be about, but now it seems people are overly free with it and it has become an 'imporatant thing' to judge and base people on or a game to see who can get the most partners and then you become dissatisfied with it. It's suppose to be something carefree and enjoyable with tenderness and passion with the one you love - truly better.

    What if someone you like does not notice you.
    Happens often, but you will find the one. Believe me I use to feel like this often when I was younger.

    Why do people need to change all the time
    It's the process of life. We need to adapt to what is happening around us. Everything is changing and we have to find a way to accept that an deal with, and as we do that, we change.

    I think it sounds like you are having a hard time dealing with people/friends in general.
    Are you in high school? High school is a really hard time for most people, especially when you are not in the top 'prep' group it seems, which most of us never where.
    Once you have survived high school life is very different. You never have to worry so much about being popular anymore and what not, life does a complete 360 for the better. Just survive these years and you will see just how good life can get. Don't think too much about what is happening now, even though what you go through in high school seems like the end of your life over and over again. You will make friends and you will lose friends, even as an adult, but you will always have good friends. You will say things you don't mean and hear things you don't like, but you will learn to deal with it and move on. High school is one of the biggest learning phases of your life. You will get through it, just keep climbing.
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    Mar 24, 2007, 02:59 AM
    My dear you need an injection of positivity!!
    Stop focusing on the negative otherwise it will feel like you are snowballing on a downward spiral, find at least one positive each day and focus on it with all your might. Disasociate yourself with negative peeps and you will start to feel like a new pin.
    Positive thoughts breed Positive action you go girl!!
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    Mar 24, 2007, 06:30 AM


    Life is 90% attitude, so being positive will bring positive results.
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    Mar 29, 2008, 09:15 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by jojo114
    why is life so complicated why does everything need to be so messy like why cant life be simple why do people need to like do what they want even if it would hurt someone why do people say things they dont really mean but still say them or if they do mean them why do they need to say it.is life only about money and sex.why do people need to change all the time and what if someone liked someone better the way they were before and they changed completely but change in a bad way what do you do. if you know someone is getting away from you and your loosing contact with that person then what. what if someone you like does not notice you. what you do if when you look back you dont know where your at no more.you dont know the last time you had a good time with your family and freinds with no fights. i mean when i look back at my life i only remeber me buying stuffs how do you know who your real friends are. oh iam soo confused with life help me

    by the way for rubypitbull question at the top well these questions do kind off connect because the truth is that they are actually me ( questions i have answers i need )

    (for rubypitbull i sent a message so check your private messages to know what you asked me)
    People just say that stuff to get attention it doesn't mean that u have to listen to them just ignore them and eventually they will learn to leave you alone
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    Dec 11, 2009, 01:12 PM
    Hi, I am 12 and I am in Year 8. But my life is much worse I get bullied and blackmailed by my brothers and my sister, everyone ignores me (including my parents, relatives, friends and family,) I'm an easy target to blame and it is so unfair. Sometimes I wish I die or wasn't born or if I did have to be born why not in another family or better family and had better friend and relatives. Everyday for me is a bad day. Well when I was born I used to have a great life but now ever since I started Secondary School each and everyday has been bad for me. Why Me? Its unfair! ='(
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