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My sister had her baby at 8:49am it is now 9:35am. This is her 3rd baby and she turned 17 in Febuary.... Her first baby shae gave up for adoption her second one she kept and this one she gave up for adoption as well. When people ask me, "Is your sister keeping the baby?" I tell them the truth "No, she is giving it up for adoption." the comments that follow that statment are mean rude hateful and disgusting "Your sister gets around!" "She's stupid she should keep it" "Anyone in their right minds would have kept the baby" "I'm surprised your not pregnant yet" "Ewww!" "Gross!" "I'm glad I'm not her sister" etc etc etc
SHUT UP!!!
Nobody knows what it's like to have to deal with this crap! You think I like waking up and knowing that I NEVER got to meet 2 of my nephews? You think I like the fact that my baby sister has 3 kids? Honestly? Maybe people think I LIKE hearing them bag on my sister when they don't even know her?????????? My sister is NOT a $lut! She's NOT a bad person!! She's a bigger better stronger person then any of you, or I, can ever comprehend! There are so many things about my sister that these "peopel" look right past or don't even know about her....... She's funny and bubbly and happy, she's a great mom, she's a wonderful friend, she's so selfless, she's caring and kind and giving....
WHY DO PEOPLE CHOOSE TO BE SO IGNORANT? What is wrong with our society today that people have no sympathy or compassion towards someone that are in a harder spot then they are??
Does anyone out there know where I am coming from? Does anyone care what we have turned into as a culture and society?
I think people get tripped up on the fact that she is 17 and has had three kids. But, the strength it must of taken to give up her child. Because of her - another family has a child that they wouldn't have otherwise. She was selfless enough to reconize that her child would be better taken care of with another family. It takes STRENGTH to do that. She could of just got the pregnancy terminated and called it a day.
May I ask why she decided to keep the middle child?
The first one she had when she was too young so the obvious answer was adoption, when she had her 2nd son she was older and she wanted a baby because of the one she gave up for adoption so she kept him, and the baby she JSUT had... well she can't afford two babys that are BOTh under a year old...
There are so many questions that come to mind with some thing like this. I do not want to offend you by asking them.
But, I guess here goes.
Does she not get the idea of protection?
Do all three babies have the same Dad?
Does she still live at home with your parents? What do they say about all of this?
I will keep it to those, that is what comes to mind immediately. I am not trying to offend you, I am just trying to understand.
Wow. I hope that she knows now, that birth control is not 100%....
In life - things happen. Now that there are 3 babies out in the world, you can't make them go away. I am just glad that she had the sense to know what her limitations are - as far as being able to care for the babies. There are lots of couples out there that can not have kids of their own. Because of your sister, 2 families have been created. I guess that is the silver lining in this.
Living in the shadow of a troubled sibling is not easy. I had my older brother and everyone pegged myself and my younger brother to be just like him. Which was the exact opposite. My youngest brother and I tried so hard to stay under the radar and never strayed from the rules. So I know what you feel like and yes, it is horrid what people say and what people think.
You cannot go by what they say or think. That is their ignorance and thoughtlessness. Plain stupidity. It is tough to turn away and not want to slap someone silly who starts in lilke that but you know that does not solve the problem. Just fuels their fire.
People who dig like those who make fun of your sister and your sister's life get some kind of superior air to themselves. Thinking they "would never do that". Yeah right. Easy to point a finger, not so easy to clean off one's own porch. I know it is hard, but learn to tune those people out. Yes, you can say something to them, like, "this is none of your business", because it is none of their business.
I do hope, for your sister's sake, that her life gets better.
On the whole..........it takes a very courageous, selfless woman to give a baby up for adoption. Most people who judge never see the selflessness and emotional heartbreak a woman is willing to endure in order to give her child a better life. Count your sister in the class who can see this......... Though she is young and has alot to learn.......the selflessness any true mother should possess is not one of them (lessons to be learned). I say......who cares what others think. Ultimately living in our own skin is the most important task we have.... Be proud that your sister made choices affirming her love for her children. There are many choices your sister could have made yet didn't. The people who are judging aren't very knowledgable about what life is really like. Full of difficult times and hard choices yet somehow manageable. Good luck to both you and your sister. Be proud! Cathy
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