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nile86 · Oct 19, 2007, 03:40 AM

I have never really had too much trouble getting girls but recently I have fallen for my best friend. I have known her for a couple of years and she is one of those girls that get a lot of attention. I am one of her really good friends but now I want more. I recently hooked up with this girl she knew and she really didn't like but she saw me hanging out with this other girl for like a month and now two months later it seems like she might like me but I can't really tell. What should I do. I don't want to mess up our friendship but if she likes me then I want to go for it. Help This is a girl I could see me with long term. O and she no longer has a boyfrind for a couple of months now but she still is kind of stuck on him cause he is her first and only. Thanks

chuff · Oct 19, 2007, 06:53 AM

Originally Posted by nile86

o and she no longer has a boyfrind for a couple of months now but she still is kinda stuck on him cause he is her first and only. thanks

Then you need to wait a couple more months until she is unstuck on him or you will become the back up plan that got used as a replacement. If anything, I would make yourself scarce, not absent completely but scarce and see if after not seeing or talking to her for a week or two she still shows interest or shows signs of missing you. Then you might be actually able to tell if she has some real connection to you or just a real desire to feel the void she currently has.

phillysteakandcheese · Oct 22, 2007, 03:12 PM

There's no reward without risk.

You risk hurting the friendship if you try to move into the romantic arena. You have to decide how much risk there is, and if it will really hurt the friendship.

You can be tactful and tell her how you feel without making it a black and while, all or nothing, big deal. If you make it a yes or no question, then it's going to be awkward. If you are both true friends, you can approach the subject without animosity.

However - If your ego can't deal with the possibility she might not want you like you want her, it's better to leave it alone. If your hurt ego turns you into a jerk, you'll only have yourself to blame... and you'll be doubly depressed. If you can't be sure how you'll handle a rejection, it's better to leave it alone.

peggyhill · Oct 22, 2007, 03:17 PM

You could ask her what she is looking for in a guy. Also, ask her if she knows anyone that she likes. I agree with phillysteakandcheese, if you tell her make sure you will can handle it if she says no.

Aplayer32 · Oct 23, 2007, 12:30 PM

I have the same problem and I don't know what to do I just wrote her a note and told her how I felt because she is the one who had a boyfriend she didn't really say much just came up with an excuse just try that it worked for me