Is my step mom crazy, or does she hate me?

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What it sounds like to me is your step mom suffers from bipolar rages. I often do the same thing just before a mania. She could be misdiagnosed(anti deprresants), and the medicine could be making her worse. It is not you by any means and her having times of apologizing which I hope she has done will let you know she is just another slave to her emotions. You need to talk to your step mom and let her know that it hurts your feelings and that maybe she needs a more thorough examination. Make sure it is on one of theose days that she is willing to speak to people and you know she will hear everything, I'm sure you have known her long enough to know what mood I'm talking about.

Weird...... I never liked my step kids but I never made them clean my room or my kids' rooms. I never interfered with their time with their dad. I never did anything mean to them. I just didn't like them. But that's weird that she would flip on you. Are you sure you didn't say something that she might have overheard & not liked? Are you sure you're giving us the whole entire story here? Cause if you are, oh hell yeah, she's wacked. Just carry on with your life, you're on your own now anyways & you don't need her. You have your dad on your side & that's what you wanted anyway. So be happy, you don't need to deal with her anymore. Ding dong the wicked witch is dead. I can say that cause I'm a step mom too & my husband is a step dad.

I know a lot of people that flip out for absolutely no reason and it is usually bi polar or they are really really miserable with themselves and make everybody around them miserable just because.

Well, my step mom has did the same to me when I was young. Blew up over stupid things, had mood swings occationally. You see, what she is doing to you hun is called emotional abuse. This isn't a thing to be ignored. If she has these weird spazzes where she has to make you feel bad, then you need to stay away from her. If you want to see your dad and sisters, ask them to come visit you. If they bring her with them, well, I suppose you could either go to court, or get her to leave.

I need help too...my step mom ignores me. She treats everyone in the family better than me and I don't know what to do...I've tried to make our relationship better by trying to start conversations with her but nothing works!...I feel depressed all the time and I feel like I am nothing to her. I try to do random chores sometimes to help her out too. Also, whenever I bring my girlfriend and my other friends over, she ignores them even if they say hey to her. She treats my sister's friends like they were some type of celebrity... Is it me? What's wrong with me to make her hate me so much? I feel like complete crap and there is nothing I can do...somebody please help me.....

Greg, where did you get that definition from? You have totally described my mother, she has her out bursts all the time with me when I have done absolutely nothing wrong even if I'm trying to help her out on things (such as cleaning) and then the next minute she is as happy go lucky. Lol
She says I'm selfish, childish, immature, irresponisble, annoying, she gets mad when when I leave when she has her crazy tantrums and says that I should act my age instead of running away. (the main reason why I go is to avoid any arguments) she is extremly rude and very offensive to me even in front of other people. She is a lier saying things I didn't do (but yet she convinices herself to believe in that lie). She is extremly bossy, and always has to be incontrol of everything. Oh and she NEVER ADDMITS THAT SHE IS WRONG OR APPOLOGIES, she will somehow blame it back at me to make me feel bad.
So does this mean she hates the living day lights out of me? What the hell should I do? I have told my dad and he agrees with me. So what do you think is going through her mind for me to make her so mad?
HELP!

A couple of things.

You're always going to be your father's daughter, and therefore a part of his life -for life. She on some level is insecure and threatened by his love for you. She could end up being dumped or divorced...

Also, you may look a great deal like dad's ex wife, which is also a reminder of the ex?

I wouldn't give her any ammunition.

I am a relatively new step mom, at first I did so much to really try to get on with my step daughter - who's a teenager and a good kid and I like her. I did so much and tried to make a positive connection with my husbands ex (of ten years ago who now has partner etc) - cards to acknowledge her - invite for coffee - friendly stuff to see if we could have a friendly connection for the kids sake ( and mine of course ). This was refused and I have never been acknowledged by my husbands ex - slowly slowly through nasty e-mail my husbands constantly got - it was clear that she was still resentful and angry and hadn't moved on in many ways. This has over time had a knock on effect in my ability to sustain being a positive and friendly person in my husbands daughters world. I am never mean - always polite to her - but I have stopped investing my care and attention and do the bare minimum ( she is 16 and lives with her mum but stays so she can go out ). I support her connnection with her Dad fully but I have stopped building my own connection and now keep out. I fought so hard to no be the wicked step mother and be kind and supportive - now although not the wicked step mother I really do see how for so step parents it is really hard and all sorts of difficult feelings can be triggered and against one's best efforts it can have a knock on effect on the relationship between step mom and children. I know - its about really making an effort for that not to happen - but its a human thing too and I feel frustrated at the situation. So all I am saying here is - the inner world of the step mother can be full of all sorts of difficult feelings and challenges and there may be factors that you might not know about about - politics - money - jealousy - envy - sadness - struggle - but my feeling is it is rarely to do with the step child - but the complexity of managing all sorts of differing emotions and relationships with ex-wived - husband other kids etc etc - it does sound like there is a lot going on for her on a mental health front and my advice would be to protect yourself emotionally - adult children of split families can still feel " I've done something wrong ' good luck

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