My son and daughter-in-law and 3 grandchildren visited me once in 7 yrs

cookieflowerw · #1 Jul 9, 2008, 02:33 PM

and I am only an hr and a half away! I cannot drive anymore and the bus ride is 4 hrs each way... that is the route here... they go all over the place..out of the country all the time but never to see me... I give up

donf · Jul 9, 2008, 02:47 PM

I'm sorry, but what is your question, or how can I help you?

N0help4u · Jul 9, 2008, 02:57 PM

Do you ever ask them why or try to work some arrangement out with them to at least leave the grand kids with you for a weekend?

cookieflowerw · Jul 10, 2008, 06:02 AM

thank you... I am afraid to ask..my son is a well known psychiatrist..he is on call alot.. he works in a hospital and also has a private practice.. his wife is a snob.. i live in a trailer park..

N0help4u · Jul 10, 2008, 06:12 AM

Oh I was thinking it was something to do with they work and are too busy.

I can relate to the wife problem, my daughter acts like she should have been born in royalty or something and she looks down on anything that doesn't live up to her standards. Now that she has a new bf she will not even come and ride me to see my other daughter if her bf is with her cause she doesn't want him to see that I do not live in one of those $2,200,000. complexes.
Short of asking her to meet you at a mall or drop the kids off for a weekend visit I don't know what you can do other than talk to your son.

cookieflowerw · Jul 10, 2008, 07:52 AM

awful isn't it? Her father is a doctor.. I had my son when i was 17.. and my daughter 4 yrs after that..their father left us when i was 21.. I raised my kids alone.. she met my son at princeton..my son got a full scholarship to go there. Now she has a doctor husband .. my daughter in law i mean, and she is too busy to drive my grandkids to me.. i always have to be the one to go there but im disabled now.. and also losing my eyesight..

mels mom · Jul 10, 2008, 07:35 PM

how old are you grand kids. can you write them a lettle , tell them how much you miss them and would like to see them . and maybe they can convince the parents to work it out.

maurice7769 · Jul 13, 2008, 05:14 AM

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Originally Posted by cookieflowerw

and I am only an hr and a half away! I cannot drive anymore and the bus ride is 4 hrs each way... that is the route here... they go all over the place..out of the country all the time but never to see me... I give up

This seems to be the way the younger generation wants to be.
My son and daughter in law, whom I love dearly, have excluded
my husband and I from things. Now my son is entering the military
and they don't want us around, but it's okay if her parents' are there.

The only thing that I can say to you is trust God, and when they
get older, they will realize what they did wasn't right at all.

I would also try to do some type of volunteer work to get your
mind off of things, and maybe adopt a family. That is what
we are going to try to do, help others.



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