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hi i am susana and i am kind of concerned of what my mother said the other day, well here it is. I'm married and have a son of 2 years old. My husband's family is what is making my mother concerned and have me worried. my husband's brothers are homosexuals. The oldest one is lesbian, the second one is transsexual, the third one is gay, and the last one of 11 years old is surrounded by them. i used to visit my mother in law every Friday, but since my mother told me that i should not take my son to that house, where everybody is homosexual i started to feel really uncomfortable there. She said to me that my son doesn't need that environment, so i didn't want to hear her, but i started to think about it, and i'm thinking about avoiding closure to my husband's family. All of them didn't finish high school, and they seem to care little about the future, since they just work and don't save money. The transsexual one has a night life that i don't respect. I have always avoided any communication with her because of her dirty life. however, i never thought about getting my son away from them. i would just visit my mother in law when none of her sons are in the house. i have been trying to do some research about homosexuality, whether it is ok or not to relate a child to these people, but i can't come up with an answer. What do you think?? should i keep avoiding any contact with my husband's family or should i just forget about it?? i have nothing against homosexuals. i respect them, but if that is going to affect my son's development, i want to take actions now. Please respond.
Susana
September 14, 2007
Gay or straight, if you have people who are bums, who did not finish school, does not want to work, does not plan for the future, and others who live a bad life of parties and multiple partners maybe don't need to be around anyones children. I would never let my children around them.
Now of course they will know that I have taught my child that this life style is wrong and that thier sexual behavior is immoral. So these family members most likely would not want me around anyway.
There are all kinds of people in the world but that does not mean a child needs to be exposed to all of them. For all of the siblings except your husband to have that sexual orientation is strange. You should maybe ask your husband what he thinks about this.
I would be wondering about the upbringing in the home. We they all born that way or have they chosen to live an alternate lifestyle, were they exposed to sexual things when they were young.
I don't think I'd want my child in that household without me. This would hold true if they were all heterosexual but living promiscuous lives. But for all of them to be that way, I would be Leary.
Scientific evidence suggests that being exposed to homosexuality as a child is harmless.
When you say the transgender family member has a disrespectful night life, do you mean she's a prostitute? If so, does she make it apparent?
If you don't think these are good people, don't expose your kids to them; however, if you're basing your opinion solely on the fact that they are queer, I think you're mistaken.
I think it far worse to teach my child HATE than homosexuality...If the child is harmed by being around his family, there is more to it than just gay or straight....IMHO.
Nobody has said anything about hating homosexuals. It's about using some sense when it comes to kids. For all but one of the kids in this family to be in an alternate lifestyle common sense tells me there is some disfunction some where.
I believe there are people born gay, but I also know there some some that choose that lifestyle. They choose to live both ways.
Perhaps they are decent people and know how to behave in a respectful way around children, and maybe they are the type that think it's OK to do anything in front of kids. All I'm saying is, make sure you know what their stance is on how to conduct themselves in front of children. Your husband, having grown up with them could probably tell you what they are like.
I know homosexuals who are very nice and respectable people. I would have no problem with my child being around them. But I don't know all of their friends. I also know a few straight people that deal in things that there is no way I'd let my child be around them. They have no respect for themselves let alone someone else's child.
It's one thing to be pc and quite another to just use some common sense, especially when it comes to children.
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