She's my bestfriend and i hate her!

Princess-IMYM · #1 Jan 29, 2008, 12:05 PM

My best friend has hung out with me since year six, now in year ten, and i'm sick of her.
She gets mad at me for stupid little reasons, like not being her partner in PE or not talking to her for ten minutes because i'm talking to someone else!
She thinks that she should be the center of MY world!
If i'm in the middle of a conversation with someone, she'll come along and try to get my attention, if i say wait, she'll go in a huff and not speak to me for the rest of the day!
And she refuses to GROW UP! she acts like a baby and speaks like a child that can't have their own way, and she was mistaken for my mother once!
She gets angry at me if i go shopping with other friends and not with her, i dont go because i dont want to be with her anymore! and when i'm starting to make new friends, or liking something else that she doesnt, she tries to real me back! (sp?)
It's like i'm her property!

Worst of all she has no other friends, and people bully her because she is so BIG! (both ways, height and weight)
Sometimes i wish she'd just go back to her old school and back to all her old friends, she sounds way more popular in the past with them!
There are times when i'm glad she's there, but all of my other friends agree that she is slowing me down in life, and that i should just ditch her.
I dont want to shoo her away completely, i have another 3 or 4 years with her for crying out loud! but i do wish she'd let ME go and get on with life.
What should i do? it's wrecking my other relationships.

N0help4u · Jan 29, 2008, 12:36 PM

That has to be hard because I know you don't want to forget your friend on the one hand but on the other hand she is working against herself and you feel stuck because of how she is. You can't let her make you feel guilty for wanting to make other friends and go places and do things.
Maybe you need to tell her you accept her as she is and you would appreciate if she would do the same. If she can't then you need to move on.

N0help4u · Jan 29, 2008, 12:53 PM

Tell her being mean to her would be making disrespectful comments to her.
Whatever you do you can be her friend, but don't cater to her. If you want to go out with your friends go. If she has a problem tell her you have every right to go with them.
Ask her, "How exactly is it being mean to her to have other friends?"

talaniman · Jan 29, 2008, 04:31 PM

You must be firm, and tell her when to back off.

MasuBhat · Feb 5, 2008, 07:06 AM

why don't you TALK with her??(talk it out)

MasuBhat · Feb 5, 2008, 07:10 AM

since you say she hav no other frens than you..well than it's no ovious she want to be the center of your attention!!..y don't you try joining her with your frens?....make sure she get's this [that whatever you(IMYM) do..you are still her bestfriend and you are not ignore her or something...but i think she's being a little or even more than that [stubborn!!]

Leith · Feb 5, 2008, 07:15 AM

This acherly happend to me. Me and my friend was like that i hated her sooo much after awhile because of silly things like that and in the end i told her i want to just be away for a month and so she left me alone for a month or so and then after that month everything seemed to be ok ^-^ we were still close freinds but we had learnt to go do our own things and just hang out when we both acherly wanted to xD i'm not sure if this will help but it might i doe know hehe

Princess-IMYM · Feb 5, 2008, 07:30 AM

Well i cant join her in with our conversations because only 3 of us like her. (Out of 13)
Everyone else can't stand her and ask me to tell her to go away.
I'm also getting bored with her, all she talks about is anime, i do like it, but i'm more interested in talking about real life. She finds anything non-anime boring its ridiculous!
She lives just with her dad i dont know if thats influenced her or anything, but still...

talaniman · Feb 5, 2008, 07:56 AM

I think she has to find her own happiness, with her own life. Its not fair to put that burden on you, for whatever reasons. Her self esteem is very low right now, and as a friend you should talk to her, and define the boundaries of friendship, in as nice and gentle, a way as possible.

MasuBhat · Feb 5, 2008, 07:12 PM

ok thanx why don't you TWO talk it out??...and that anime thing i know how you feel..co'z i'm feeling the same here..
i think she's being quite selfish...other wise why don't you accidently show her this thing you wrote on this site??? [is this a bad idea?]



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