Rifts between my mother and my wife
Hi,
I am an Indian guy who has been married for over 2 years now and as our culture is, I stay with my parents and Grandmother post marriage.
I have been facing a lot of pressure due to the growing problems between my mother and my Wife. I love them both and can't think of getting separated from either of them.
Some of the reasons for these conflicts are:
My Mom is strict and very straight forward and don't show a lot of emotions very often. She is fit and gets her work done really fast however my wife is relatively slower and very emotional. Though she is generally polite and makes all possible efforts to improve herself, she at times looses temper and says things which could be treated as disrespectful in our culture. She also wants to be treated as a daughter (and not a daughter in law) which again is not a commonly found practise in our culture.
In a nutshell, my mom is strict, practical and dominating, where as my wife wants to be shown some warmth in their relationship. I have tried hard to make them more compatible but the success has been short and the effects elope after any small verbal conflicts.
I am under a lot of pressure due to all this and if required can have the 2 of them consult with some relationship counsellors as well. Thanks for your help in anticipation.