I'm recently found out that I am pregnant. My boyfriend is black and I am white. My parents haven't met him even though we have been together 6 months already. They completely disapprove of us being together. My question now is how do I mend any relationship with my parents; knowing they do not except us being together and now to bring a biracial baby into the mix is completely unexceptable to them. My bf and I plan on keeping the baby and eventually getting married. But I still would like to have a relationship with my parents and begin a family with my bf.

LadyB

Hard as it is, sometimes we have to let go of people we love because they have become toxic. Bigotry is toxic, you don't need that in your life.

I would tell them simply "I love you, but you are wrong and hurtful and I won't let you cause me any more pain nor hurt my child or BF, whom I love, with your bigotry. The door is open if you can walk through it with unconditional love for me and mine"

The ball's in their court.

MishcaParker

You need to let go the idea of the idealist set of parents and realise they are individuals in their own right, with their own flaws, and they are either very ignorant or racist. Explain to your parents that you are a intellegent adult capable of making your own decisions, they must be respectful of your partner and child, and you will not choose between them and if they decide to choose for you, then maybe your better off without them. Provide your parents the oppertunity to meet your partner and give them the oppertunity to get to judge him on the strength of his character, as people should be judged not gender, sexuality, race nor religion. If you are unable or unwilling to accept your happiness, then it is better to embrace those around you who are supportive and loving, remember the wider community will embrace your family as a whole with love.

lilmama07

sometimes there nothing you can do but let them feel the way they do and just pray that things change i'm 20 and just found out that i am pregnant i'm white and my bf is black when it came to telling my parents my mother told me that if i kept the baby i was out of the family

trying4babykirk

well i just got married and i know that if you try to make everyone happy you will never be happy. i asked my mom to walk me down the isle because my dad wasnt really in the picture, even though i spent holidays and weekends with him...he just wasnt "daddy" if you know what i mean..well finally i realized im going to do what make me happy and i did and he finally after 10 years gave me a hug and calls me now, because he now realizes what he missed, and your parents will too. A baby is a baby and deserves to be loved, red yellow black or white! i am proud that yall made the decision to keep it and you should be too!! your parents will come around just be honest with them!!! GOOD LUCK!

N0help4u

You are 30 and if your parents can't accept your choice that is their lose. Make the best life with YOUR family-bf and baby. I (personally) would even go as far as narrowing it down to if it is a choice between my parents and the bf and baby I am carrying I would choose my bf and baby and let the chips fall where they will. Time tends to heal a lot of things that we spend hours worrying about as well as change hearts to your favor. When your parents see the baby hopefully they melt at the site of their grand baby.

Real love is hard to find any more and your parents should be glad that you are happy and in a good relationship. I'd rather that my kids marry someone outside their race that treats them good than marry someone the same race for appearance that doesn't treat them right.

lacuran8626

It can really turn the tables if instead of changing your parents views, you take a soft and compassionate approach and just say, "you know, I feel so badly because I want to make you proud, but I also love Dave. I know you raised me a certain way, but I also have to do what I feel is right in my heart - you taught me to do that, too. I hope with time you will come to understand how much I love him, and our baby, and that you will want to be part of our lives. " I think, also, that marrying him would make a difference. If your parents are traditional people, this will elevate their view of him as your husband, and not the guy who got you pregnant.

lostinIN

My sister was in the same situation, and my mother completely disapproved of the relationship and her having the child. She was 16 at the time and I will have to say it was hard for her. But right after my nephew was born all things changed. His 25 years old now and she has two more sons, also bi-racial. The times we are living in are changing, and our parents are from the time that races didn't mix. You need to realize that not everyone will except you or your children but you have to decide what is best for you and your family and God up above, he doesn't make mistakes, God that is. Your parents may never change their minds, but then again they might. Do what is best for you and your child and just ask God for the strength to go through all the tough things life will hand you. God Bless, and best wishes.