Manipulative evil stepmom

CluesslySmart · #1 Apr 13, 2008, 06:57 PM

So my step mom might not be abusing me or anything but she is a major . before u laugh and mutter "silly girl, You don’t know how good you've got it" listen to my story please. My dad was happily married to my stepmom, lets call her Jane. My real parents are divorced so i only see my dad two times a year, summer break and winter break. Well one time i come out there and "poof!" she's gone and they’re "separated" Suddenly he introduces his new "friend" and tries to give me all these reasons to like her and why she’s such a good friend. I was stupid so i believed him. However the friend came with baggage, a six year old daughter, lets call her marcy, and the friend laura. So jane is gone and laura and marcy spend every waking moment at our house. Though she slept over often and in his bed, i didn’t quite catch on until that one horrible, dreadful night. Yes you guessed. About 12:00 am i heard them. they were louuuddd (she was obviously faking) i became emotionally unstable and freaked out and i went in the bathroom and cried and almost threw up and they just kept on going and no matter were i went i could still here them and i wondered why marcy didn’t wake up. I tried o get them to stop by knocking on the door and asking if everything was all right because it sounded like someone 'crying" my dad said oh yeah they were just talking and listening to the radio. Well hell i didn’t know songs with that kind of content were played on the radio. I couldn't summon the guts to talk to my dad so i told my only friend in my dads state (most of my friends are in my moms state) my cousin, let’s call her karen. Talking about it made me feel a little better but i couldn’t tell my dad. They did it about three more times went i gave up and called my mom on the phone. She told him about it and he promised to stop. it took about 12 more nights of torture and 5 more of my moms phone calls to seriously get them to stop. When i realized i had a secret weapon. My grandma is a die hard Christian and because my dad wasn’t legally divorced and she was still totally married, it was adultery. i told her about what he dud and guess was she did?? She just laughed and told me how funny i was. Wow. Thank god by now they’ve stopped doing it when I’m in the house, but I’m ruined and i can go sleep at his house anymore without straining my ears and praying i don’t actually hear what I’m listening for. my dad now wants me to bond with her and love her but its hard for me because she replaced my stepmom who i loved, plus because of what i "heard" i try to like her and be nice but its really hard and there is lot of problems between us four because of it. he says i should love her because she makes him happy, does anyone have any advice for how i can love her? Please help. Its almost summer and ill have to go out there and see her. She's mean to me when I try to be nice. And vice versa.

justcurious55 · Apr 13, 2008, 08:24 PM

how old are you anyways? if you're old enough to understand what they're doing in the bedroom aren't you old enough to confront your dad about it and ask him yourself to keep it down?

is there more to this? i understand that a new person in the house is difficult but not liking her because your dad chose her to replace "jane" and is sleeping with her doesn't seem like a good reason for you two not to get along.

djsk · Apr 13, 2008, 09:03 PM

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Originally Posted by CluesslySmart

So my step mom might not be abusing me or anything but she is a major . before u laugh and mutter "silly girl, You don’t know how good you've got it" listen to my story please. My dad was happily married to my stepmom, lets call her Jane. My real parents are divorced so i only see my dad two times a year, summer break and winter break. Well one time i come out there and "poof!" she's gone and they’re "separated" Suddenly he introduces his new "friend" and tries to give me all these reasons to like her and why she’s such a good friend. I was stupid so i believed him. However the friend came with baggage, a six year old daughter, lets call her marcy, and the friend laura. So jane is gone and laura and marcy spend every waking moment at our house. Though she slept over often and in his bed, i didn’t quite catch on until that one horrible, dreadful night. Yes you guessed. About 12:00 am i heard them. they were louuuddd (she was obviously faking) i became emotionally unstable and freaked out and i went in the bathroom and cried and almost threw up and they just kept on going and no matter were i went i could still here them and i wondered why marcy didn’t wake up. I tried o get them to stop by knocking on the door and asking if everything was all right because it sounded like someone 'crying" my dad said oh yeah they were just talking and listening to the radio. Well hell i didn’t know songs with that kind of content were played on the radio. I couldn't summon the guts to talk to my dad so i told my only friend in my dads state (most of my friends are in my moms state) my cousin, let’s call her karen. Talking about it made me feel a little better but i couldn’t tell my dad. They did it about three more times went i gave up and called my mom on the phone. She told him about it and he promised to stop. it took about 12 more nights of torture and 5 more of my moms phone calls to seriously get them to stop. When i realized i had a secret weapon. My grandma is a die hard Christian and because my dad wasn’t legally divorced and she was still totally married, it was adultery. i told her about what he dud and guess was she did?? She just laughed and told me how funny i was. Wow. Thank god by now they’ve stopped doing it when I’m in the house, but I’m ruined and i can go sleep at his house anymore without straining my ears and praying i don’t actually hear what I’m listening for. my dad now wants me to bond with her and love her but its hard for me because she replaced my stepmom who i loved, plus because of what i "heard" i try to like her and be nice but its really hard and there is lot of problems between us four because of it. he says i should love her because she makes him happy, does anyone have any advice for how i can love her? Please help. Its almost summer and ill have to go out there and see her. She's mean to me when I try to be nice. And vice versa.

hey i understand what ur going through!!
but theres things in life that only god knows
im sorry 4 ur parents divorce but mybe its for the best
i understand that the facted u witnessed ur step mom & ur father in action
u should understand that its a part of life
Do ur best this summer to get involved with ur step-mom even if shes mean
open up to her and allow her to know how u feel if shes mean or says something wrong
dont fight back and tell ur dad well i hope this helps u
love a friend!



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