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CredenSium · Jan 29, 2012, 08:22 AM

I have a mother who lies a lot... So much so that when she is actually telling the truth I cannot tell if it is a lie or not. She bad mouths me to family members and always tries to make me and my sisters look bad in front of others... So that they will feel sorry for her. She lies about her financial status and acts as if she can afford the world. When in actual fact she is no where near to that, not even a fraction. It is quite frustrating to have to deal with someone like this on a regular basis. I would appreciate your input.

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Fr_Chuck · Jan 29, 2012, 09:41 AM

How old are you? Where is your father in all of this? In what ways does she bad mouth you in front of others.

JudyKayTee · Jan 29, 2012, 09:43 AM

Your age matters.

Otherwise you live your life in a responsible manner. Hopefully other people see the lies. You cannot control what people do and say.

Live your life in a manner which proves her wrong.

Lizzy18 · Feb 11, 2012, 03:19 PM

Unfortunately, your mother projects signs of nasty childhood and seeking ways to compensate for something she longed for when she was a little girl but never got it. Therefore, it is mostly a sad situation that seems to weaken her own family fabric and she may not be knowing it but you seem to be bleeding for a real mum who will be there for her children and not turning them against their own people. It is tough to be in such a scenario since I would like to understand that you adore her in as much as she lies a lot. So try to be upfront about her lying habits and tell her you love her and you hate it when she lies because it makes you feel like she does not love you at all or whichever line suits you most but make her see what it is doing to you and your siblings. People who lie do not like people who are upfront or who seem to be saying the truth but at the end of the day they come to realize that they cannot win these battles with a lie. Just like light wins over darkness so does telling the truth time and time again.

CredenSium · Feb 14, 2012, 08:43 AM

Hey Guys thank you all for your input. Fr_Chuck & JudyKayTee... Im 25years old. Our father is remarried and very much a part of our lives. We have a fantasic relationship with him. Our mother bad mouths us to people all the time, she will say things like "Oh my kids dont care about me"... that we shout at her and tell her that she's not good enough, that we always run to my father because he has money... and none of this is thruth. We love our mother to bits and pieces and really desperately want to find a conclusion to this, we know that its not going to be easy, or happen over night... Lizzy18 thank you for an awesome answer! If we call her out on her lies... we're scared that she feels as though we are ganging up on her and its happened before when we told her that we knew she wasn't telling the truth and that we were old enough to see for ourselves what was really going on and how she lies... well... I never heard or saw her for a week or so... We tell her all the time that we love her.

But it seems as though this problem is spilling over into her work and its causing problems there too. My aunt got a call from my mothers work asking "what was going on" because my mother has been lying a lot.