love life .very complicated

unnati_mistry02 · #1 Mar 27, 2007, 04:41 PM

hello.....
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iand my boy friend had a break off...........we had an affair for 5 years.......
he was very short -tempered........now we are not on talking terms.........will he be back.......to me.........since last 20 days we have not spoken...should i assume that he has somone else in his life..............help me

babyzapata · Mar 27, 2007, 05:27 PM

aww thats sad to hear me and my boyfriend are the same way but
its hard i know how u could feel just hang in there im sure
he will be back if not im more then sure the "right" person will come along
and knock u off ur feet =]

talaniman · Mar 28, 2007, 03:54 PM

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we had an affair for 5 years.......

As in your other post, what do you mean by affair??????????????

Lylegeorge · Mar 28, 2007, 04:18 PM

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Originally Posted by unnati_mistry02

hello.....
......

iand my boy friend had a break off...........we had an affair for 5 years.......
he was very short -tempered........now we are not on talking terms.........will he be back.......to me.........since last 20 days we have not spoken...should i assume that he has somone else in his life..............help me

He probably not withsomeone else just let him cool off he may come back to u.

unnati_mistry02 · Mar 30, 2007, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Lylegeorge

He probably not withsomeone else just let him cool off he may come back to u.

hi there......i waited for him 20 days he's still not back........i really need him..i love him a lot......please tell me what should i do??

my friends told me to call it off...as they think he is not worth me....and i m unecessary wasting my time...........but i have a lil hope in my mind...if he loves me he will be back...but when????

please suggest some useful tips???

herringelizabeth · Mar 30, 2007, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by unnati_mistry02

hello.....
......

iand my boy friend had a break off...........we had an affair for 5 years.......
he was very short -tempered........now we are not on talking terms.........will he be back.......to me.........since last 20 days we have not spoken...should i assume that he has somone else in his life..............help me

if you havent talked in a while i think you should get together

herringelizabeth · Mar 30, 2007, 05:30 PM

yah,and if you need another friend my e-mail is[ Faithherring.comcast.net].

lacuran8626 · Apr 18, 2007, 07:10 PM

If your friends do not think he is good for you, you need to stop obsessing for a minute and take an assessment of your own life and what you would want if he was not a factor. Write down all the reasons your friends give for him not being right for you and think with some clarity about whether they are right - not whether he had a good excuse or you found a good reason to excuse the problems, but whether the problems exist. Determine whether you would want your friends to tolerate being treated the same way. Write down what you think of a person who would disappear and cause the kind of distress you are experiencing now to someone they are suposed to love.

I think your friends have a point. Any man who would leave the woman he loves wondering what is going on for days and days on end is not thinking of what is best for her. Any man who is suposed to be your partner in life should be considering what is best for you all the time.

There are some behaviors - and this is one of them - that are so destructive to other people that they cannot be made up for with other things, like understanding you sometimes, or being a fun date, or whatever. You deserve better.



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