I used to have a great group of friends. We hung out all the time and it was great. Then for no reason one of my friends starts leaving me out of everything. I hear about the movies they went to that I was not invited to, the game, hanging out. I could not believe it. I talked to a friend I had known since first grade and asked him why he did not ask me about going. (he is not the one leaving me out). He told me that it is like a birthday party and you cannot invite someone who wasn't invited. I was appaled at this. Well this continues and whenever I try to talk to the friend who is leaving me out he tells me he has no idea about any of this. So what my problem is, is that he has some how managed to turn all my friends against me so now they barely talk to me I still hear about the fun times they are having and it has really depressed me. I have no idea what I should or can do. I am now like the nerd who does nothing on weekends. I mean I had a whole big group and they all turned on me because of something my "friend" said to them. Help what can I do.

There is always a ringleader.

Not sure if this will help, but a little history on a similar situation that happened to my daughter.

Same thing with a bunch of friends. They were inseparable. They always did everything together. Then, one of them as it turned out, singled out my daughter, and then everything slowed to a crawl. No phone calls, cold shoulders all the way around.

They got so mean that they invited her to a movie one night. They told her which show to buy the ticket for, and then they all went into a different theatre, and she was stuck with a ticket to a movie that they had no intention of going to. They set her up.

That was 10 years ago. She never did find out what happened. Eventually, everybody went their separate ways, and so did she.

But, what that did do, was allow her to find other friends. I know that sounds corny perhaps, but nobody needs to be treated badly, or singled out and tossed aside. It is a terrible thing to have to deal with emotionally. When you find new friends, and as you get older, you will find others with a bit better quality of character, and learn to know who to trust. You may not ever have a large group of friends again, but the ones you do keep, will probably be with you all your life.

All right first off all I feel your pain. How old are all of you guys? {vulgarity removed} Honestly what I would do is try to tap into some people who are friends but not close. Meet new people you wouldn't believe who you get close with. This all depends on how old you are also. If you are in High school then it should be easy the scenarios change as you get older. Sorry if this was no help. The main thing you should do somewhat let it go stop caring even though easier said than done. Try to meet new people and it may take a little bit but you will eventually meet some new friends.


P.S.

Be yourself!

This sounds like middle school. No real friends would treat you badly or go along with a nasty "ring leader".
Time to get out there and make some new friends. Find something you're interested in, and sign up for a class or hike (depending on how old you are!). I know that in my town, there are regularly scheduled hikes in the arboretum, or musical/dancing events that are great places to meet people. If you're still in middle or high school, maybe sit next to a loner at lunch time- lots of times, these kids are a bit shy, but very nice people. There are decent people out there who'd make great friends. I wish you the best!

I Lost a friend once this year! We talked out our issues and became good friends again

Try to find the real you. Hang around who you want to. Find some other friends and let your friends do what they want to. Invite Jesus into your heart! He will be your true best friend!