Husband and mother-in-law

stace1704 · Jan 31, 2010, 08:22 AM

There is a limit and I am going through exactly the same situation, my partner is always calling his mum and telling her stuff she doesn't need to know... My mother in law is a royal pain in the in the sense of she will talk to him about something and tells others but if I find out and and question her about it she denys it and he does too.. When we were moving out she told him that if things go wrong my partner and my son can go and live there but I can't, fair enough but then when some one else she told this to replied with " if things go wrong then she'll go back to her mums with the baby" she replied "she can't do that because she tearing her family apart" (talking about me) when that was her intentions when she said I couldn't go back there..

Also every time we're in her area she makes an excuse for him to pop in, and he does

She bought tops for my son when she was on holiday and because she didn't see him wear these tops she TOLD my partner he has to put one of the tops on when we go round there

Everytime she is on the phone to him she walks out the room and when his working and I go to a family members she gets the hump about it she seems to think she can control me as well...I don't think so!

stace1704 · Jan 31, 2010, 08:22 AM

I think it is a mother, son thing and I don't think there's nothing we can do about it

talaniman · Jan 31, 2010, 11:18 AM

Stay out of their relationship! That simple.

Gemini54 · Feb 1, 2010, 12:20 AM

Mummy, mamita, mumsy ... Hmm. I do get where you're coming from.

But, it's his relationship with her. Stay out of it. Leave the room when he's on the phone with her. It's up to him to change his relationship with his mum.Go bash the cat, vomit in the toilet or something (just jokin' about the cat).

Perhaps a silent arching of the eyebrows next time he starts the 'mamita' stuff might get the message across...try and see the humor in it - it is pretty funny.

Jake2008 · Feb 1, 2010, 02:30 AM

I think it is bizzare for a grown man with three children to be calling his mummy every day, let alone the baby talk to her.

I would say that is an unhealthy relationship, that the two of them are so dependent on each other that the son reverts to being a child, and the mother expects it.

That being said, if that is the only weird thing he does and it doesn't affect his life with you in any way, then ask him to make the calls in another room where you, and your children, can't hear him.

I doubt that you can stop this unfortunately.

Maybe you can get on an extension, and ask mummy if she has time to iron his underwear.

jiyapoodle · May 15, 2011, 08:01 AM

I know this very well! It sucks! And both the parties know it irritates you! They want to show, you don't distance them. Kiddish..childish..and given a chance I would slap both on their cheeks. Immature fools..
They think you are better in several aspects and this is their way show "you are not my end of the world".
If you have to listen this, just show "I don't care, you fools.."

Husband and mother-in-law

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