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Hello Everyone,
If you have any kind of disability where it makes you look different and when going to a restaurant someone laughs or stares at you, what would you do? Now to make this situation even worse what if you had some teens taking a picture of you on their cell phone and laughing and making fun of you?
What would you do and how would you handle this situation? Can anything be done about such disrespectful behavior?
As bad as it is, some people are crewl mostly teens, because they dont understand. If you want you can go up to them and ask them to please stop because it is upsetting you. If there parents are there go and say something to them. Im so sorry that you have to go through something like this. Some people can be very crewl. And it never give anyone the right to do something like that. I wish i could help you more. I know its hard but sometimes you just have to ignore them.
Personally, I would smile and wave. Anything to put the attention on them and wake them up to their nasty behavior. Some people are blind to their own actions and need a little wake up call.
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Even though these people might have a hurtfull affect on someone that has a disability, i would still advice not to show them that they have an effect on you, to show them any attention might boost their egos, act as if they were'nt even there
Hope, I am so sorry this has happened to you. I became very upset reading your post. I definitely do not think keeping quiet and taking the high road will have any effect on these people who have not been taught proper manners. You do need to be assertive and speak up. It is the only way to get this behavior to end.
What is even sadder than those children doing what they did is that another adult in the immediate area witnessing their actions did not intervene in any way. I would never put up with that kind of behavior if I saw it going on in front of me in a restaurant. I have seen this type of behavior in the past while I was shopping, and I put a stop to it immediately. I didn't care who heard me giving them a piece of my mind. It is wrong and cruel and NO ONE should allow that to happen to another human being. By staying silent, everyone else becomes a party to it.
If I were the person who is the subject of this obnoxious behavior, I would state extremely loudly for all to hear: "I hope and pray that you are never disabled when you grow older, and are subjected to this kind of abuse from other people as you are directing toward me. How do you think you are making me feel at this moment? I can't change my situation. You should be ashamed of yourselves for being so hurtful and unfeeling of my condition." If that doesn't make them want to dive under the table of embarrassment, then there is no hope for those teens. And, if they continued, you can be guaranteed that another adult would intervene after hearing that.
If you're in a wheelchair, run over their foot.
If you have a facial deformity, offer to given them a kiss.
If you are a little person, kick them in the shin.
If you have one arm(or no arms!), announce really loudly that you'd LOVE for them to give you a high five and hold up the remaining part of your missing limb.
Or you could carry a loaded squirt gun in your pocket and make it look like they wet themselves!
Silly post, I know, sorry.
In all honesty, I think you need to call people out on this sort of behavior. Publicly shame them, maybe they will learn something. A glance in your direction is one thing and can be ignored, but photos, pointing, laughing, staring with one's mouth agape? Let the whole room know what a jerk that person is.
Toward the end of my dad's life he was in a wheelchair when he had to go out in public, and because of his condition he had difficulty controlling his movements. He also LOOKED very sick. We didn't take him out much (he didn't want to go anywhere), but when we did there were certainly stares. Thing is, most of the time it was at the hospital, when we were taking him for an appointment, go figure that one out! Anyway, for that we just ignored people, but no one was ever BLATENTLY rude.
Oooh! You could always take a picture of THEM and then get your friends to point and laugh at them instead!
Hope, you don't have to be tough when you speak to them. With what I was suggesting, say it loudly but don't shout or act angry. I think if you can muster up weepiness while you are saying it, that would be the most effective way to get to stop them cold in their tracks, and make them think about what they are doing and how cruel it is. If you don't want to do it for yourself, think about the other people just like you who are subjected to this. It would be nice if you could manage to get through to at least one of them and end it right there.
Hope12 agrees: Great stuff. If I wasn't so darn polite, I would love to try some of these and see the reactions. LOL
And that's the difference between you and the people who are doing the teasing! YOU have manners, they don't! I wouldn't expect anyone to actually do the things I suggested, but there's nothing wrong with picturing it in your mind to make yourself feel better!
First of all, I will try not to take it hard, it's very sad and it would hurt me a lot, but you know that our mind can create a hell or heaven it is all UP TO US. I want to be happy living your lofe everyday. So please, please don't get so depressed and let it influence your life. Be strong. The things that don't kill you will make you stronger.
Secondly, if their action is forming a crime. You def. should use law to protect yourself. U know that if they laught at you, that is not enough to sue them, but something else...maybe...I mean it could be evidence that u can get on their action, collect them carefully, talk to any lawyer friends or any law professionals see if there are some laws that can protect you.
Be strong and stand up for yourself.
Don't use violence to solve the problem. Be wise, but don't let them walk over you!
Peace and love
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