How to deal with condecending people?

LearningAsIGo · Jan 30, 2012, 11:13 AM

Honestly, those people are exactly the sort that I avoid. You can't make them stop treating you that way or learn to appreciate you for an intelligent person worthy of respect.
The only thing you can control is how much you're willing to put up with.
When I've had those people in my life, I get fed up enough to say "If you can't respect me, then I don't need you in my life." Then you either stay friends and they learn to respect you OR you are no longer "friends" and you can move on with life without them.

ladylove25 · Jan 30, 2012, 12:07 PM

I made a mistake on what I said or I think I asked a question that was apparently stupid and my friend says "you are such a puertorican". I just shrugged it off but I'm wondering would this be considerd stereotypical? Should what he said offend me? By the way my friend was dominican so I don't know. Also I was going to a chat on skype with that friend that said that and another friend who was skyping in DR and I told them it would be easier if I spoke english and the other guy was like (in spanish) no I'm not going to talk to this "gringa" and when I told them what major I was in (criminal justice) he's like oh that's a man (and I'm not) lol anyways what do you guys think?
Did you found what they said weird? Lol

Do you guys find funny what people say about puertoricans stealing cubas flag? Lol

ladylove25 · Jan 30, 2012, 12:09 PM

How do I troll someone that trolled me by calling me "a trap"? Lol

JudyKayTee · Jan 30, 2012, 12:13 PM

A trap? Not only don't I understand why this is insulting I don't understand it at all.

You troll someone by pushing them to give you a reaction. How you do that is up to you.

It's a form of revenge.

Fr_Chuck · Jan 30, 2012, 12:15 PM

Name calling, guess grade school teachers allowing the kids online today.

JudyKayTee · Jan 30, 2012, 12:15 PM

You are in College and a criminal justice major?

Would a comment like that offend me? No.

I question why the continuing "LOL" on all of your posts. How old are you?

Are you Puerto Rican which, by the way, is two words, so I'm guessing you are not.

JudyKayTee · Jan 30, 2012, 12:18 PM

You seem to have a problem with self confidence and other people embarassing you, not respecting you, making fun of you. http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-f...e-631784.html; http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-f...me-631782.html; http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/f...ys-630755.html; http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...me-618006.html; http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/religio...on-613999.html (in this thread you didn't realize that Roman Catholics are, in fact, Christians); http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-f...es-611457.html

You are VERY tied up in what other people think and say about you - almost preoccupied.

For someone in College - particularly a criminal justice major - you seem very young. There is no way you are going to make a living in any facet of law enforcement unless you start to worry less about what other people think of you.

Quite simply - I don't think someone in College would be posting "LOL" and "Ha ha" in every post.

Something isn't quite right here.

ladylove25 · Jan 30, 2012, 12:23 PM

they want me to get a reaction because they are calling me a trap lol idk how to get back at them tho

LearningAsIGo · Jan 30, 2012, 12:24 PM

I'm not sure I'd be personally offended but it seems obvious that they are making fun of you. You're the only one who can decide if that's offensive to you or not.

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