| Do you love this woman? Can you trust her? Can you get past the fact that she had this baby by another man, while you were living with her? You stated she has other children by other men - you must have known that when you became seriously involved with her and if it did not bother you then, it is not fair to let it bother you now. If it was not an issue before, do not use that to be one now. Her past behavior should have been enough of a warning sign. But I would say to let that go. What does matter in the here and now is that she was living with you, became pregnant, and this baby is not yours. That is more than enough to deal with. That and the fact the two year old is your child also.
Do you know for an absoolute fact, DNA testing, that this baby is not yours? Do you know that the two year is yours? Is she still seeing this other man? They may deserve each other, you know. He knew she was living with you and yet it did not upset him that she cheated on you.
You have rights as a parent and I would hope that you are checking out what those rights are. Because this woman is the Mother of your child, does not mean you need to provide place for her to live. You can go for custody of your two year old. You also need to decide is she worth any further involvement? How much are you willing to "put up" with in terms of her behavior? Not many guys would put themselves out there over and over to be a woman's doormat.
If you feel she can be trusted, that she can seriously give up the boyfriend, and remain focused on your relationship ... only you can tell that. What the heart tells us and what the facts tell us are often two different things. What has happened is very sad. I really hope you find some peaceful solution that will make you feel you did the smart thing. Don't let yourself get hurt again. Take care. | 
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