finding my biological mother or father

disco_monkey16 · #1 Jan 16, 2007, 04:20 PM

i would like some help on trying to find my dad. my dad's name is Wayne Turman. and my moms name was Patricia Turman. but they got divorced when i was a baby, and i dont know my moms madien name is. i have two biological brothers, and i have a sister which lived with me. i told my foster parents, counsleor, and adopted apretns that i wanted to find them and they asked me questions and was like, what if they dont want to have anything to do with you? what if they are depressed because they gave you up. or they dont watnt ogrow a relationship with you? and i said i just want to give it a try. i been looking but the only one i found was in Milton Florida. and i called that number but he said that he is not my father and he didnt have two sins or something like thast. i just would like some help. no one else is willing to help me i am 17 and i need to know where they are. please email me back as soon as you can,

shygrneyzs · Jan 16, 2007, 04:39 PM

You ask many questions that can only be answered when you find your parents and all of them are real and honest questions. You will not ever know until you find them and ask.

Since you know their names, would you know when or where they were married? There is a marriage license and that is a public record. On the license would be your birth mother's maiden name.

What can the adoption agency help you with? Some of them, for a fee, will contact the parent(s) and tell him/her that you are seeking information and ask if they will allow the agency to give out their information. Catholic Family Services did that for my nephew (who was adopted by my brother and sister-in-law when he was two). He did find them and after meeting them, decided that he wanted nothing more to do with them.

No doubt your original birth certificate is sealed so that is not feasible.

There are websites and blogs devoted to adoptees wanting to find their birth parents and vice versa. There are even people who would search for you, for a hefty fee.

I hope your adopted family and counselor can be supportive of your efforts. Partly they are worried for you, worried that you might be hurt or disappointed. They are looking at this from a protective angle. They could also be concerned that once you find these people, that you would have a conflict of emotion, or that you would forget them. It gets very complicated, as I am sure you know.

I truly hope you have good fortune in your searches. Keeping your expectations realistic and remain cautious. Not everyone out there will have your best interests at heart.

shygrneyzs · Jan 16, 2007, 07:12 PM

I thought that too, Fr. Chuck - the person she called who hung up could very well have been lying. Yes, it has happened before and like the saying goes, will not be the last time someone does that to another person.

disco_monkey16 · Jan 17, 2007, 01:44 AM

i dont think my paretns could live in Il, TX, last time i heard from them they were in Polk County , Fl. i got tooken away from them when i was 5 yers old. i dont know anything about them except for my brothers names, my moms name before she got divorced, and i know my biological dad's name. i dont know there age. but i know he may stil be in state. probably.

AYB91087 · Jan 17, 2007, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by disco_monkey16

i would like some help on trying to find my dad. my dad's name is Wayne Turman. and my moms name was Patricia Turman. but they got divorced when i was a baby, and i dont know my moms madien name is. i have two biological brothers, and i have a sister which lived with me. i told my foster parents, counsleor, and adopted apretns that i wanted to find them and they asked me questions and was like, what if they dont want to have anything to do with you? what if they are depressed because they gave you up. or they dont watnt ogrow a relationship with you? and i said i just want to give it a try. i been looking but the only one i found was in Milton Florida. and i called that number but he said that he is not my father and he didnt have two sins or something like thast. i just would like some help. no one else is willing to help me i am 17 and i need to know where they are. please email me back as soon as you can,

My name is Ashley and I may be able to help you. You may email me at [email address]

if interested. I am 19 and when I was 8 i fount out my dad wasn't my dad, but that my biological father lived in TX. And 4 years ago I FOUNT HIM!
Don't loose hope- and it is always worth it

disco_monkey16 · Jan 18, 2007, 08:46 PM

no my biological brothers were never adopted. there last names are turman.

christinacraig · May 1, 2008, 08:42 PM

here sweetie try these, I found 2 in FL. The other 3 were william truman may be your brother let me know is that was your brothers name and I will send it to you ok.
about your mom its harder to fiond a woman because of marriage they change last names

W. A. tRUMAN
825 ARTHUR MORE DR
GREEN COVE FL 32043
904-282-3616

W TRUMAN
NO ADDRESS LISTED
ZEPHYRHILLS FL 33542
813-779-1252
I hope this helps let me know if not maybe i could try and help more
God bless you and your serch



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