I dont know what to do.

rangers · #1 Nov 29, 2007, 09:36 AM

Hi
Im 20 years old and currently live with my mum, dad and younger sister
I recently found out that my mum is cheating on my dad and i really dont know what to do!
I am 100% sure that she is and i have text that proves it
The only person i have told is my boyfriend and he really didnt know what to say and he doesnt know what i should do either

Things between me and my mum arent always great anyway but telling her i know will only make things worse and i fear i may be kicked out of my house or anything!!
Dont want to tell my dad as it will break his heart!
I have found out she is meeting him again in a weeks time but i cant get time off work or anything to follow her
I really dont know what to do for the best

Please can someone help?? Or if anyone has been in this situation can you tell me what you did and how things turned out

Thanks x

450donn · Nov 29, 2007, 10:09 AM

Do you want best for you or what is right?
What is right would be to confront her with the facts as you have them.
Best for you would be to be quiet. But you will feel bad about that especially if your father finds out, so I personally think it would be best to confront her.

rangers · Nov 29, 2007, 10:26 AM

thanks for that
i know after reading it mights sound as though i want whats best for me but to be honest i just want her to stop and get on as normal!

i know im gonna have to tell her, i just really dont want to see my dad get hurt

its just how and what do i say to her?!?!
ive gone through every way i can think of! was even going to text her on my weekends away to say i know! ive even thought of emailing the guy she is sleeping with!
i hate that im in this situation but a part of me is glad that i know whats going on, im just stuck as to what to do!

Tuscany · Nov 29, 2007, 10:28 AM

Do you have another family member that you trust that you can talk to about this. I would hate to give you advice and then have it blow up on you. People don't often take news like this very well and having someone to help you figure out what to do, how to say it or to if you decide to tell would be a good thing.

Whatever you decide realize that it is not your fault. Your mom did this on her own.

rangers · Nov 29, 2007, 10:32 AM

i have a very big family but i dont think i could tell any of them about this!
secrets dont keep very well in my family!
im gonna have another long talk with my boyfriend about it this weekend

i know its not my fault, its nobodys fault but my mums and to be honest i really do hate her for it!



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