Originally Posted by Greg Quinn
Very nice post
I agree, you need to see where he stands with his lifestyle right now. I know how angry and hurt I was when my daughters dad didn't see her for almost 4 years... in the meantime he fathered 2 little boys by 2 separate women, and saw them but not my little girl. He also was in jail a few times for DUI's and one of the little boys moms' is a little on the crazy side and they fight all the time, sometimes turning physical. He now doesn't see either of the little boys, mostly the mothers not allowing him to.
But I didn't want to be the one preventing a relationship. It was fine when he was gone, but now that he was actually making the first move to build a relationship I couldn't be the one to tell my daughter down the road that her father wanted to see her and I didn't let her. Maybe it's just my personal experience from not ever knowing my father, but I agreed to let him start seeing her again. Right now I still am present during their time together, but things are great and they are building a good relationship. He is not around as much as he should be, but I don't push it. She still call my husband "daddy" she just now says she has 2 daddys.
you are trying to do what's best for your daughter, and keeping him out of her life may be the best thing, but no one can really know since he hasn't been around in such a long time. You need to look at the big picture, and weigh in all the pros and cons, and maybe sit down and talk to your daughter and listen to her feelings on it.