Not that I condone your friend breaking her promises, but when people get married and/or have children things change. I was where you are now at one point. My best friend and I had been friends from as far back as I can remember, then she became pregnant with twins. Once her babies were born our time together was never as it once was. I was hurt and hated it as well. But then after I got married I understood how hard it is to keep things the way they once were. It doesn't mean the friends don't care and love each other like they always have, it's just the time thing. When we get married or have children we immediately begin building that life. Therefore we don't have as much time as we once had before we started this life. But then, I suppose there are always exception to everything and it may not be this way with all friendships, but I am speaking from my experience. My friend and I have a mutual understanding of why we can't spend as much time together anymore, it's understood. But we are still there for each other anytime, we still love each other dearly and still consider ourselves best friends. Besides she just got married, she is excited, things are different for her than when she and her husband were just dating. She has started a married life and is working to building it the way she would have it be, responsibilties, dinner, recreation time, and of course the I can't get enough of you husband mine. Give the new time to wear off. I am sure she doesn't mean to hurt you in anyway, it's just that things have changed for her. And when changes occur other things are affected.
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