My Best Friend is a Slut

Just one more piece of advice and then I will leave you to your life.
When someone tells you something bad about themselves.... BELIEVE THEM.
They are telling you the TRUTH.
Lynn would always say she wan't being a good friend to me. I would then tell her "oh no, You are fine. You're a good friend." Even though I thought she was right.
So, If that should happen to you, just say "well, then change it." People do not follow the Golden Rule. I have found this out threw out the years. You MUST stand up for yourself.
My life growing up was complicated. I REALLY don't want you to follow a similar road.
28 and just NOW trying to figure my life out? I should have done that in high school.
Life is too short, honey, to be worried about saving someone from themselves.
She clearly doesn't know who she is and what she wants. My mother was like that. I hated her for so long. Now, I pity her.
It must be very hard for her to not like her own reflection. Sad.
Try to put yourself in your friend's shoes. See things from her view.
She is, most likely, insecure and has really low self-esteem.
You can still be friends with her just keep her at a distance. Set ground rules. Do whatever you think you need to do. Just don't get too attached.
I KNOW it's hard. You WILL feel pain but if you feel better not talking to her and listening to her go on and on about all her problems then that is better for you.
Be strong.
You don't have to be an jerk all the time but looking out for your own well being and peace of mind should be first for you.
As far as "bird of a feather" is concerned; you need not worry about that. People who don't know you don't matter. The people that do, do matter and know your not like that.
Hell, I didn't have sex until I was 18! Everybody "friends" made fun of me and said I was prude. NOT the case.
You know. If you Really need to talk to someone I will still be here. I know this time is hard for everyone.
Stupid parents are ALWAYS saying" Oh I know and understand what you are going through." REALLY! Then why are you on my back all the TIME?!
Sorry. I'm still bitter about my mother.
If there was a personal way to give you my e-mail address I would.
But like I said. She obviously doesn't care about how you feel, so why would you show her compassion?
YOU CAN'T REPECT SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T RESPECT THEMSELVES.
The same can be applied to life, love, happiness, learning and all that stuff
I hope my INSAINE ramblings have helped you.
Be good to yourself.

One more piece of advice then I will let you be. When someone tells you something bad about themselves..... Believe them. They are telling you the truth.
My life growing up was complicated. So, I have been there done that. If there was a way to give you me e-mail address without having to post it, I would. Everybody needs someone to talk to at one point or another.
Always remember.
You Can't Respect Someone Who Doesn't Respect Themselves.
The same can be applied to life, love, happiness, learning and all that stuff.
She clearly doesn't know who she is and what she wants. My mother was like that. I hated her for so long. Now, I pity her.
It must be very hard for her to not like her own reflection. Sad.
Try to put yourself in your friend's shoes. See things from her view.
She is, most likely, insecure and has really low self-esteem.
You can still be friends with her just keep her at a distance. Set ground rules. Do whatever you think you need to do. Just don't get too attached.
I KNOW it's hard. You WILL feel pain but if you feel better not talking to her and listening to her go on and on about all her problems then that is better for you.
Be strong.
All the adults say "this is the best time of your life. Enjoy it."
But if they are asked if they would relive their "teen years" most of them say "no way. It was too hard." then they go home and tell their kids it's the best years of their lives.
I hope my INSAINE ramblings have helped you.
Have a good life, honey.
I wish you get all you have dreamed and more.
Be strong.

Sorry about repeating myself. I thought the first one didn't go through.












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Hello rocker:

I've been reading all this.

You know, speaking as an old dude, friends are hard to come by. Even your real friends aren't always going to act like you wish they would. And, I suspect you aren't always going to act like they'd want you to either.

You don't have to be like your friend in order to have her as a friend.

Life lasts a long time and people change. It's good to have friends, who are just your friends.

excon

Show her the error of her ways and say you'll stick by her I she'll change

If you can't tell a friend " I don't want to hear it" who can you tell?

Listen, if there is one thing I know it's that your friends want your attention. She wants t know that you care for her by telling her she is doing things you do not agree with. She may not take that advise, but knowing you care enough to make the observation and talk to her about it means a lot. Your friend is who she is and will not change because of your talk, but she'll know undoubtly that you love her and that's really all you can do for her. She (as we all do ) has her own problems and personal demons. That is her problem, not yours. Just love her for who she is, or move on.

I would talk to her about it and how it is bothering you. [in the nicest way tho] don't do it over text, you need to talk to her on the phone or in person so you guys don't mix up things and end up in a fight. This is what I always do whenever something is bothering me with my friends, and it always seems to help.

All you can do is live your life as an example. I have had friends pull that same line on me and it couldn't be further from the truth. I think it gives them comfort or validate or justify their self with false hope to think that one up. Usually in your early 20's friends do drift out of our lives because they prefer a different lifestyle. Some people have to learn the hard way.
There really isn't much point in hanging on.
If you talk to her have it like a where do you see yourself in 10-20 years from now.

I knew a girl, in Longmont as a matter of fact. She couldn't keep her hands off any guy she decided she wanted. Married or not. Her life at that time was one continuous drama.
She went through, and made a lot of h__l for some people. If you like the drama, stay near, if not, steer clear.