Well I dont know how poeple will judge me if I say that I am married and I have nice friend from chat Well our relationship is based on just writing sending mails and sharing ideas through forums but no cam our friendship was so strong and respecting each others in some extent we dont talk about love or anything beyond that but I have been confused and I asked him his opinion and what he thinks honnestly his answer let me thought I am a specila person as a matter of fact I lost my control and decided not to keep contact with him I thought of my husband and I should keep his loyalty after separating from him I recognized that how much I love him as a friend and the way his respect to me and never said anything more than friendship and his help and advices were so specious and I need them now
I am just wondering if am I unfaithful to my husband baring in mind that my husband knows about my friend
Is it bad bad to loose his friendship or letting him go
hope to hear from your advices
welll I don't know wether my feeling for him is strong friendship or he is a specila friend but what we decided is not to appear on cam and not to talk about love so that our relaship can be clean but in a sense i hesitate to continue
I really miss his advices and his way of helping me should let him or think more serious

trmpldonagn

Do you feel comfortable talking to your husband about all of this? I know he knows about your friend but maybe if you tell him everything it may even bring you closer. To your husband that is. Try telling exactly what you have posted here. Whatever is missing from your friend that you let go or whatever it was that you really appreciated and enjoyed, is it possible that they happen to be things that are missing in your relationship with your husband??

rimania

well our friendship was so wonderful and we have been talking espacially about how to rise my kids and also difficulties I have encountering as a foreigner in a different culture we also talked about about some problems with my husband and seem that he resolve them all for me and he was trying everytime to push me to love my husband and to be a a good wife and thanks to him me and my husband can be a nice partner
well my husband is a nice person but he is not interested in topics I talked to him any topic I suggeted even the most important ones. I just lost my confidence in myself believing that may be I am not good in telling event and making them more intersting for my husband
well I feel so sad that my husband doesn' t like sharing ideas or opinions well my friend is the only person I can enjoy sharing ideas
If in a way I say to my husband about what we talked he seems not interested or what I say is not enjoyable at all
I am lost in a way because I really wanna be for my husband and to exchange my ideas but he is not willing too
in the other I feel guilty for keeping a strong friendship with my best friend and I feel like betraying my husband
I really miss him and his encouraging me

N0help4u

I don't see anything wrong with talking to a guy as long as your husband is okay with it and you keep the talk to things you would talk to with another woman.

Like a few years ago I had some Internet guy friends that I talked to. We talked about our kids, work, recipes, hobbies and things like that. I didn't have a bf at the time but if I did I don't see anything wrong with what we talked about. It was like talking to some Mr. Moms or something.

Jesushelper76

I do not think you did anything wrong. I know now a days that lines can be blurred and or crossed. Your honest with your husband about this internet friend. In my personal opinion, you have not done anything wrong.

I agree with the above answer Nohelp4u.

Jesushelper76

Just want to add, Just in real life or the outside world. Many couples and married couples have different friends. Male and female and does not mean that anybody is crossing any lines.

rimania

Thanks so much for your support and advices It helped a lot and gib\ve me more confidences
I thought I am bad and as if I am cheating my husband but I didn't do anything beyoond the red lines just sharing ideas
Thanks

rimania

Well I am happy that you sympathise with me and I just felt lost I wanted to be sure not by asking my husband about that ne t friend but I wanted to hear most poeple
Thanks a lot for your advices

rimania

Well you are right I just needed somoene to talk anyway not to be stressed somoene can help with his opinions about raising kids and problems since my husband all the time don't think about our problems seriously and never wanna share opinions
thanks again

taoplr

You can trust the advice that you have been getting here. As long as you stay on this side of your "red line," there is nothing wrong with you having male friends, your husband having female friends, both of you having gay friends, and just relating to people as people. Trustworthy friendships deserve respect. I fact, such friendships come from respect. How could this be wrong?