Am I unfaithful

Thanks so much but you know I am so disapointed when just yesterday I emailed him saying sorry that I want to finish this relationship a and I opoligized and I felt guilty for destroying our friendship
Well his reply was so cold and saying that I should think of my husband and not him and I had better not to think of our friendship
It was like a thunder of course my husband is the only person I love nobody else but sure I love my friends all and I don't want to loose them
I am destroyed because friendship is so special for me
Thanks all of you

I'm not so sure it is a good idea to maintain this friendship.

The friend is filling a void, that your husband should be filling. To need somebody to talk to about thoughts and feelings is in the husband domain, not online.

If you need friendship, why not join a women's group, a church, volunteer in your community, help out at the local food bank.

If your husband is willing, make an effort to socialize with people. Friends, neighbours, relatives. Make an effort to use the resources around you to include him, rather than exclude him. See if your neighbourhood has holiday barbque's and/or get together's.

I personally find it sad that you have an online friend that you regard more highly, and confide in more than your husband. Having real, live, face to face communication to try to fill this gap with your husband, should be, in my opinion, your first priority.

While I agree that you aren't doing anything wrong, I think you could be doing a lot more off the computer with your husband.

Actually, that doesn't sound cold to me. It sounds considerate. He's being responsible. This relationship might not be the right thing for you because you are redirecting what should occur with your husband to a stranger. But that doesn't mean that he is a bad guy. You had some openness with him via the Internet. Now get about cultivating more of that with your hubby.

you are so great in giving me this answer
I should in fact deal with some groups in my community well I started some and even going out with my child to the park and talk with other ladies about kids well as you know I am living abroad and I feel sometimes the homesick and need to talk in my native language and share ideas with poeple from my own culture
But of course I am open minded like to talk with any peson from different culture
My husband is the first person I need him for chatting and sharing I can't push him more He is so busy and on his day off like to take a rest and recover all his power
He doesn't like to be along with poeple I won't challenge anymore But I hope that he might change. His kids may change his mind they all aready ask him strongly to go out with us and he has changed slightly
Thanks so much

Yeah I in fact included that when I asked him for details explaining that I should keep the unity of family and include my husband to be more sociable and he also explain by asking him for advices and caring all the time of our friendship my relationship with my husband would turn worst because I neglect my husband and not doing any effort

Thank so much for your advice

I am not going to give you a reddie but what would your advice be if she was talking to a woman as a friend?
As long as she is not crossing any lines I don't see a problem with having male friends but if she is developing an emotional attachment then yes she needs to cut off communicating with him. But for now b I t c h is rather harsh.

I think that if you found that this man fulfilled a need that was empty before, but you feel like you are emotionally crossing a line with him that is unfair to your marriage, you might need to take a new approach. Perhaps you should end this friendship because it makes you feel unfair to your marriage, but know that you need to find a new way to fulfill those things in your life that this man has provided.

It may well be that you need more female friends, for example, with whom you can discuss your feelings, frustrations and experiences.

As an immigrant, consider looking into whether there is a church or cultural organization for people who are from your original home country. Or perhaps take some English classes to meet other women who are learning English and like you, adapting to a new culture. If you have children, perhaps find other mothers with children the same age such as their classmates, and arrange some playdates - serve coffee and some snacks, and just have them as guests in your home, or start a weekly thing where you meet with other mom's and their children at a McDonald's playland or a local park.

I think it's often unrealistic for us to feel completely fulfilled as women from a single relationship with our husband. Men are not as emotional, intuitive or talkative as we are and they can leave us feeling unheard and ignored. Women can provide that sense that we are not alone, and we have support and love from more than one source.

I do think that you should trust your gut that this online relationship was not good for your marriage - the fact you felt that way is enough for me to say, you're probably right...let that friendship go, and find some women to befriend on your own, and/or some couples that you can befriend with your husband.

Thanks
I was afraid in fact to be developped more and more since our first chat it is not the same as now we have been talking about varieties of subject we have been so intimate that it s hard to make a clear line of our friendship and I am afraid to be developped so I asked to end it up So it was not clear for him why should this wonderful frieindship should end all at once
After we cut I realised that how was imortant I need somoene to talk to share no one at the moment
I miss this talk and now nobody I can ask for advise
But I am optemistic to join this forum and discuss at least

Well I left it and I worried a lot before ending it up because we had mitual help and sharing advise we didn't talk about love or even we can't meet or even appearing on cam
But emotionally it was not clear well loving each other as friend
But finnally I could realize that I should not go furthermore because it might change
For him our friendship is so imortant and I do consider that
But only one decision is not to go more on this chat friendship In the future I don 't know if he may email and I would hesitste for refusing I don' t want to hurt him and in another hand I don't want to change mind on going chatting again
But I do miss now all the talk and advises
I do have to change and make friends around
Thanks

It sounds like you are really working hard to do the right thing while also finding people to fulfill your emotional and social needs for companionship, and you know, that's really all anyone could ask of you. I hope you will find that in time all your needs are met, and that you feel very secure in how they are met.