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The New Girl, how to get along with the other women?

Asked Jan 17, 2009, 11:42 AM — 15 Answers
I waited a few years before looking for a new job with a better salary. I did it to save myself and my health. I had an easy job, I got along with everyone and I even got recommendations when I decided to look for another higher paying job. Finally I looked and looked and finally I got the phone call. I went in for the interview, they all seem to take to me right away and all my years of experience as a lab technician. I do it for the military as well. Plenty of experience, only really no experience working with kids and drawing blood from them and babies. I knew that would be a challenge. I like a good challenge.
I started work and began my training. Even if I knew something I wouldn't jump out and say it right away. I didn't want to be labled a know-it-all. The training has worn on, they said I'm a very quick study. Then came the office politics. I tried to stay out of being the knew gal. But, I don't want to be stepped on either. A few came up to me and said watch K, she will stick you with everything, she is the lazy one. I said, Uh...I don't think so. I said, I'm not new to this field, I'm new to this office. So she did take advantage of me, but I put my foot down a little. She kind of got the hint.
Now, I find myself being the brunt of all the problems in the office. If something goes wrong, they immediately are quick to go to the supervisor and say something about me. Ones I thought were my friends, quickly turned on me. One girl who is soon to be my partner on 2nd shift, totally floored me yesterday. She sent out a mass email, including to my BOSS talking about how one of the anylzers was not properly unloaded. I knew this was my mistake, as it was only my 2nd day on the machine, I'm still in training. But she totally told on me. In this very smart letter. Somedays these people act like really decent human being to me and others they treat me like crap. More often like crap. I don't get it. I rarely talk, I do my job now and try to enter in a conversation, only to be not even heard. This is only my 2nd month on the job and as far as I know I've picked up on everything very quickly. What is the problem? Is this just me being the new girl? Did I mention I work with all women? All of whom who have worked their 30th plus years. The one that sent the email, started back in july 08. It hurts to be turned on like this. I did comment back to her on an email. I was nice about it. But why didn't she just come show me what I did wrong, instead she had to broadcast it. Now my boss is like, well....looks like your having problems on the machine, we are going to have to extend your training on it. It was a simple thing, that I wasn't sure about. Not something that will take me more weeks to learn. I'm SO ANGRY. I don't know how to fit in here. This is exactly what I was afraid of, when switching jobs. I need some sound advice here. What is going on is so catty. The other new girl is trying so hard to be liked by everyone she stabs me in the back. I don't get it, how can I survive this?

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spanglish30 Posts: 24, Reputation: 5
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Feb 2, 2009, 08:23 PM
Any updates on how your job is going?Just wondering.SPANGLISH30
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Feb 11, 2009, 12:59 AM
Yes, let's hear more maybe? I'm an outcast too because I don't get involved in the nonsense. This makes them gossip more. It seems they work a lot less also and of course they get away with it. This was/is a good thread.
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Flyflyaway Posts: 11, Reputation: 1
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Feb 11, 2009, 09:09 AM
THE UPDATE AS OF 2/11/2009

The cattyness has died down, but I know once I go into work today, will hit the fan. Everyone is always worried about someone making a mistake, and LAST night, I think that may of happened due to how busy we were. I now get it. We seen over 100 patients last night. Somewhere in the crazyness of it all I think I made a mistake. Now I have to go in and face them ALL. I don't want too.lol. Sounds silly, but you get everything in the book yelled at and more. I'm starting to think this job is not what it is cracked up to be. To be this nervous about going to work, is ridiculous. I ll will comment back soon, thanks to all. Its been a rough road so far here. I m not sure how long I can hold out......
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Feb 23, 2009, 09:59 AM
I always used to think that women stuck together, but it seems that many of them see other women as a threat and are always competing with each other. I'm the only man working with 5 women in a kitchen and I get along good with all of them.
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Feb 28, 2010, 05:31 PM
I just left a company because my boss and her boss decided that I said "i'll get her" to my boss?! If they want you gone - you're gone. I never said this - denied it and even wrote a six page letter to HR about all the gossip my boss inflicted on me about 99% of the office staff. She liked the administrative assistant. I think she was just very insecure, lazy, and jealous. She had a bad boss work ethic. She shouldn't be around other women. Ever see those dogs that can't get along with others? What do they call them - oh yeah. She was one, nasty, fat B! Good Luck. Glad to know it's not just me! I know I sound bitter, but I'm a very nice person that just had enough!
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Feb 28, 2010, 05:35 PM
You can control only yourself. My boss and her boss concocted a story that I said "i'll get her" This was absolutely false and juvenille but when you work with women what do you expect? My boss gossipped about 90% of the people in the office. She was not happy with her fatass so why be happy with anyone else? I'm so glad to be out of that snake pit. You can tell what my bosses name is by my username - right? Good luck - I totally understand!
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