Feeling used by Supervisor

He has no obligation to invite you to the wedding (you really aren't best buds or longtime friends), nor should you take offense that he hasn't. I would get a wee bit upset though if he isn't giving you gas money. You'd go to his supervisor because he hasn't invited you to his wedding???? I hope not!

Either continue on without complaining (and learn to make a gas-money deal when someone asks for this kind of help), or tell him in a pleasant way that you can no longer help him out with transportation.

Oh, and welcome, val!

I agree that the wedding is a totally separate issue and it should not be part of this discussion.
I would find a polite reason to set a deadline for driving him places and even for doing errands, such as your gas budget is strained, and you can't do it past the end of June. You say he has no functioning transportation, so if that means he has a car that isn't working, you can say that you are sure he will have it running by then anyway (even if not true). I'd be more annoyed that he can afford marriage but not a running car than I would be by anything else.

Why is he asking you for a lift? Is it possible you live closest to him so driving him doesn't take you out of your way?

Was anyone else in the office invited to the wedding? But I do agree that not being invited doesn't mean he is using you.

It's a very casual office. And maybe I'm a little oldfashioned, but in my opinion, if you are getting married and you've invited everyone in your office to your wedding, at least everyone you know and work with regularly, you don't discuss the details right in front of someone who you didn't invite. And it's not on my way at all. It's just that on this shift there's only three of us including him. I've been helping him out because I care about him and I know he cares about me. We all socialize in and out of work. I also found out he's using college grant money to pay for the wedding so I know he could be using some of that money to fix his car, although I didn't realize you could do that. I guess ultimately there's no way to predict what will happen here. It's employment at will. The higherups think of him as part of their family and will probably side with him if I go to them with this.

So the next time he talks about the wedding respond with; 'gee I'm sorry I won't be there to see that' Maybe, he thinks he invited you.

But , if you don't want to drive him around make excuses. Say you need to run some errands so you aren't going home.

You know, I want to thank you for your input. He also asks me to go fetch his lunch so I really have no excuse for that because it's in the middle of the day. I think ultimately I'm so hurt and dissolutioned and feeling so crappy about the whole thing that I'm just going to look for a new job. I am too emotionally involved in this place and that's my own fault for letting my emotions get in the way of my job, although that's not to say I'm not still doing my job very well because I am. Also, I considered that maybe he thought he had invited me until yesterday. Someone stopped in who is invited and he asked him about him not sending back his RSVP. If he's aware of who has and hasn't sent back their RSVP then he would realize I haven't sent mine back. But I haven't sent it back because I didn't receive an invitation so it has to be intentional. His fiance is moving in with him this weekend. She doesn't have a job so it will be interesting to see what happens now because she has a car. If he continues to ask me for rides when he could potentially have her car, then honestly I will have to conclude that he is using me for my car.

The fact that he is using college loan money to finance his wedding and has asked the rest of the office to come to his wedding (but not you but continues to mooch off you) puts a new spin on my response. He sounds like a selfish, egocentric young man. Suddenly, my car and my good graces would not be available. I like Scott's idea of what to say.

I think I've made up my mind. Talking it out with you guys has helped. I think I'm just going to suck it up until I can find another job. I will never respect him again and will find it difficult to work with him and resentful of the situation so I see no other alternative realistically. And I need a good reference from them which I would get if I leave things alone so that's what I'm going to do. Thank you for the helpfu and kind words.

I'd love to be a fly on the windshield if you ever ask him why you aren't invited to the wedding and reception.

I like your thinking this through and your conclusion, and am glad we could help.