Okay what do you do when a parent who tried to kill you as a child and you haven't seen them since you were a kid and this person just pops up out of the blue saying they want to see you? What if you don't care to ever talk to this person again or is it best to just scream at her?

Hi,
"Parent who tried to kill you as a child"? Did they serve prison time? Were they convicted? What do you mean?
Thanks.

Yeah my biological mother who was all drugged up all the time. My dad says she was put in jail but didn't stay there that long. My grandmother says that that was not the first time she tried anything. She said that my dad did not know about it because he was at work all the time. Well why in the hell could they not have opened their mouth up and said something? Now I'm mad at them too. I guess she want to talk to me cause she don't have anymore drug money. :mad:

Hi,
OK, you answered my questions. I thought you meant your real Mom tried to strangle you, or kill you with a pillow!
Now, to the question. It's all up to you. There have been many TV shows like this, on Montel, Dr. Phil, others.
If you want to see your real Mom, then do so. The best way to release tension or hard feelings or love or anything, is to talk about it. You might "clear the air" about a lot of things, by talking with her. The only way you will ever know if she is really only wanting "drug money" is to find out, first hand.
But, on the other hand, if you don't feel you can, then forget about seeing her.
Personally, I would make the effort, and talk, see her. Then, I would really know what it's all about, and not "wonder" about it for a long time to come. I could always tell her "no", I don't have any money for that; if that is what she wants. If not, I could find out that, too.

I know it must be painful for you to see your mother after what she's done to you. People who are on drugs can do dumb or dangerous things that could hurt themselves or other people. But you're a survivor, you've endured your drug addicted mother's abuse, and you've turned out to be a responsible woman with a family of your own. Perhaps, your mother feels bad for what she's put you through and wants you to forgive her.

It would help to talk to your mother, especially since she wants to see you. Talking through your issues with her will bring you some closure and help you overcome what happened to you. If you choose not to form a relationship with your mother, try to forgive her and get on with your life. Even though your mother was unstable, you've turned out to be a good mother to your kids, that's something you should be proud of.

I'll 2nd that advice. Give her a chance.

What should I say to her. Should I just say hi to her and then go from their or just come straight out with it? What if I get panicky like I do sometimes and can't say anything? Maybe she won't show. Dad tells me she asked to see me one time when I was 10 but she never showed when they went to meet her. I wonder why he didn't tell me about that.

Don't be bashful about admitting that you are a bit nervous and not sure what to say - when you are not sure what to say.

I had a similar experience with my blood father who left my mother when I was 2. I saw him a couple times as a kid, then not at all for 20 years.