hello ,

actually i want your help as i 'm suffering alot , i know a guy from internet we start a frienship and he was really great friend then we meet and from the first sight both of the two hearts beat and we start a relationship full of love , after three month he asked me to meet my dad for marriage proposal but suddenly before such meeting he disappered leaving a message (QUOTE: i got lost i've a big problem, i want to talk to you every second and god knows how precious u r to me , i love you but i need time please forgive me) for your info. there's no corporeal problems.

sure after this message i was disappointed and asking why he left me !! and why he didn't let me share him such problem to be solved,after two month he starts to call me , respectively i reply him but we decide to be friends as he has a problems towards our marriage and he didn't give me any chance to understand what had happened or what kind of this ..we couldn't hide our feelings and rapidly we turned back to our love , he is very kind with tender manner i tried alot to forget about him but i can't ,

this time he insist not to leave me again as his life was stoped without me and he decide again to meet my father for proposal but for my bad luck he disappear suddenly before the meeting by one day without leaving a message of excuse ..

i don't know what shall i do i really love him and ensured of his love but also can't forgive him for what he did !! this last situation happened since a 3 month ago eventhough during this period of time he shares me my personal occasions by sending emails from unkown address signs by "someone" , yesterday i feel something strange and excess need to call him honestly i did call him and my sense was right as he was in accident ,we talked for more than 3 hours which compensate the previous moments without even saying hi ...

i need him more than before i recognized that he is my man he is the right one for me but my dignity don't let me talk about renew our love story also i'm afraid to face the same situation as before

please help me i don't know what shall i do also i'll not call him again ,i'm just waiting for any action from his side but i need him much .....i'm lost (how do i get him back)

mjl

I think he may just be really scared to get married. Marriage is a HUGE committment. If he really did want to marry you he wouldn't have ran off twice after proposing. If I were you I wouldn't marry him because what are the chances he would run off after you get married?
How old are you? You sound too young to understand the idea of marriage if you still want to marry him after he ran off twice. Three months is not long enough to know if you want to marry someone. I think you should but a lot more thought into this.

shinyrose

i'm 25 years old and 3 months were the begining of the relation but by 18th of november we will reach 2 years knowing eachother ,

you know its not myfirst love or the first relation to sigh for him , but he is different and i feel comfort with him

hope to understand me

mjl

Get some realationship counselling. If he wants to try to make it work he should agree to get go to couples therapy. I am 20 years old and I am married... I don't claim to have more experience cause I'm married, cause I've only been married for 6 months now, but I do know that if you want to make it work you're going to need to work at it very hard if he wants to keep running out when he gets stressed about marriage.

shinyrose

do you think that i should call him and keep up contact him , or just wait his reaction and stop any action from myside...

and if i should wait , is there any hidden effectiveness i could take to get him back.

mjl

what do you mean "hidden Effectiveness"??
I think you should just let it go. If he keeps leaving you he obviously doesn't want to be with you. There is plenty other fish in the sea! I'm sure you can definitly find a great man who won't keep running off on you. By the sounds of it he is very immature for just running off on you.

shinyrose

u r right, eventhough i loved him but i'm exhausted from his sudden bad actions

also as u said "Marriage Is A Beautiful Thing"

mjl

I am glad to see you understand. You are right, your probably really exhausted from chasing him around, and a relationship shouldn't be exhausting, it should be a BEAUTIFUL THING!!

Barbid

Sounds as though he might have some skeletons in his closet. Try playing hard to get. It sounds like everytime you two plan to meet your dad, he gets cold feet. He should be honest about his feelings. Show up at his doorstep. Does he have a wife? You don't wnat this to keep happening. What if you two plan the wedding and he doesn't show? Be careful, he might have someone on the side. Good luck.