I need help finding someone with only her maiden name. I have seen many websites that say they can find someone for a fee. Is there any site for free or a minimum fee that is particularly good at finding people?

Fr_Chuck

there is no cross reference anywhere paid or not, to maiden names.

you will need to know birth date ( or @ age at least) last known address ( longer it has been harder to trace.

Of course a social security number of something would be a big help.

They can run a list of people by first name only about the right age, but depending on how popular the name is, it can be 1000's and 1000's of names.

With only an old name, even online searches can produce little.
A real life dectivtie that would go and see the old school, find old friends, inquire at old places of employment may find some info.

Also you can search some of the states that have marriage data, check states she may have been in to see if any record of her marriage may be showing up.

It is hard, even with lots of money. I was trying to find "EVA BURK" some years ago, I knew the state she was from in the 50's, her first husbands name ( found him in about 10 minutes) but after years and several 1000 dollars I have not a single clue on EVA.

melissa0114

Thank you Chuck. I appreciate your help. I am trying to locate my birth mother,as I was adopted when I was 5 weeks old. You would think that by knowing her maiden name it would be more simple.
Thanks again.

Fr_Chuck

Yes that was why I was looking also. Being adopted I decided to try and find my "birth parents"

I found my birth father fairly easy way back in the late 70's, but never though about him being divorced ( he was on his third wife by then).
I never went and saw him, I drove by the house, stoped, went to the door and knocked but when a women opened the door, I merely pretended to be some religious nut ( not hard to pretend) and left.

It was not till about 8 years ago or so, that I decided to find them again, he had died since then, but I found his sisters and they sent me photos of him and my mothers wedding, and pictures of him a year before his death.
I found I was listed in the "family" bible. I also learned that I have four 1/2 sisters whose mother will not allow me to contact them, and one 1/2 brother who I have talked to on the phone but we have never meet and have no real desire to at this point.

My birth mother was never found and I have spent 1000's to do so. We even bribed a clerk at the court house for sealed documents that gave us more info, but nothing could ever be found. Her first name was EVA, so I got a company to search all of the EVA's in her @ age group with addresses. We mailed each and every one of them a letter. I have posted on every adoption and family search board I know of.

In the end, the search was not as much to find out who I was, I am the person my parents raised, and I have never though of "birth parents" as real parents merley gene donars who did what they thoughwas best at the time.

But some of my medical issues are inherited and I was hopeing to find more family history, but that has not been found out.

melissa0114

What emotions and thougths must have been running through you when you went up to that door! Do you mind sharing why you decided not meet him and tell him who you were? If you would rather not I totally understand. Do you have regrets now that he is deceased that you didn't go through with it that day? I'm sorry your search for your mother never yielded the information you wanted. I can sypathize.

My step mother found a marriage certificate in my bio mother's maiden name. (yesterday) It has to be her b/c it's an unusual spelling and she was married in the city of my birth. My step mother did a search and said she found her and gave me her address and phone number. I am hesitant until I know for certain it is her, as I'm not sure what aveneues she used to get the info. I would hate to write this person and it not be her. Thus leaving me the decision, if it is in fact her, what do I do now?
Thank you again for your reply.

Fr_Chuck

Of course the choice was made years ago, when I was about 20.
At the time I figured that my parents were the people who raised me.

And in the end I decided I did not know what I was looking for or why I was there. According to the other family members he was not a good husband for his first couple of marriages but turned out to be a wonderful father and husband with his last wife. And I don't still know what i wanted in a relationship with him, because to me I have my parents.

Perhaps it was also just fear that he would reject me "again" and I don't know at the time I was strong enough to be rejected.

Mooselady

Is there a cheap way of finding a lost friend with a maiden name?

Fr_Chuck

There is no way to find someone with a maiden name if they have now changed thier name.

( well no cheap way anyway)

You can run a check of marriages for marriage license in states where she may have gotten married ( but it will have to be a state by state check)
to try and find a new married name.

You can go back to the area where she was from, call everyone in the phone book with her maiden name and ask them if they know her.

Press2Esc

Although many states do not have the info online, birth and marriage records are public record. As youmight suspect, It taskes time - but I have found maiden and married names via marriage records.

P2E