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Old Aug 17, 2008, 11:27 PM
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Military Memories Haunt me

My name is Dylan. I was formly part of the United States Special Black Ops Forces. I have seen much death and it didnt bother me back them but now i cant sleep at night without thinking about them. I was involved in the end of vietnam, Berlin Wall, Cuban Missile Crisis, and many other great time periods. I have many other things to say but i may not because it would be treason for me to speak it since it is Classified Top Secret. I was ranked as a general when i retired and earned many rewards and medals such as the Purple Heart and i was spoke by the president at that time. Please Help me.

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Old Aug 17, 2008, 11:29 PM   #2  
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Well i dont know how to help you on that, But i Strongly suggest you see a doctor about seeing people who are dedicated to help you overcome this haunting.
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thank you for your help ive tried therapists and doctors but it doesnt work
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thank you for your help ive tried therapists and doctors but it doesnt work
Well i know that seeing someone die and also Killing someone can give you a image that could stay in your mind forever. it might help if you think Why you did this and what good it brought to you and your family, or friends.

I bow to you for protecting are states and take the risks you took.
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i killed because it was my mission althought ive had over 300 men under my command and they are responsible for over 2300 enemy kills. But i wish i would have asked more questions of what i did...

... no need for you too bow ive done my share of protection as will other... i ask you to bow for the 13 soldiers ive lost in other missions..

Thank You Once Again
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PTSD can be approached this way. It works for me. A book named Focusing (can't remember the author) originally introduced me to the process. The mind is a funny thing when emotional memories are especially strong.

http://focusing/
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Thank you for serving.

My husband was also in Vietnam, he was shot and had to leave the service on disability. He also killed a man, it was his job, he has no choice. He rarely has night terrors that wake him up.

He does not have PTSD, (I do, but that's a different story) but I do not allow my grandchildren to play with toy guns because if one is pointed at him, he does have a flashback. Even the word 'shot' upsets him. He refers to the shooting as 'the incident'.

There is no ‘cure’ for PTSD, but there are people trained to help you deal with it. I personally have to see a counselor, and take a prescription in order to deal with the night terrors, panic attacks, anxiety and sleeplessness. Although there are nights when I cannot stay in bed, and sit up all night. However, without the prescription, I would surely kill myself; because I cannot stand the anxiety or whatever that ‘thing’ that comes over me. I feel I cannot stay in this body; it is unbearable. I thank God for the help I have received.

I pray you find the help you need.

Blessings,
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thank you for your help but honestly.. your husbands flash back is about one man.. my men killed over 2000
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thank you for your help but honestly.. your husbands flash back is about one man.. my men killed over 2000
I'm sorry that was only one example...I suppose that mother's son didn't matter; his life was meaningless?

My husband's flashback is about getting shot in the face, but it went through his arm first, defensive move that may have saved his life.

Sorry, I can't help you.

Thanks to your men for serving this country and doing the job they signed up for.

I hope you find the help you need.
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in general we all have our demons so to speak to over come, and you can not down play a persons one person over your troops 2000, thier one is as bad as 1000 if it is happening to you.

In general it is only that one or a few faces that end up haunting you anyway, But it is a soldiers job to follow orders, and in most cases they were not even considered human they were just an "enemy" the hardest was when one broke that rule of looking at thier face in their eyes that make them more human to your mind, not just a target.

But what happens during the war and while in miliary, it is stlll just duty, it is not till later that you start having a real life outside of that world, that you mind starts trying to file things, deal with unresolved issueds and so on.

But you have a few choices, harden your life and sould and go on, let it haunt you forever or learn to give up the pain that you can not change anyway. We have that face from the past, the dead that still haunts us years latter. You are not alone, and in some cases there is no real cure but by learning to talk about things you can help give up in the pain

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