Hello,
It just brakes my heart to hear from you, but it is good to hear from you. You already started to look for help and that is a great sign!. I just want to let you know that more people than you image go through things similar and even worse than you have, many of them probably don't even realize that something different is possible, but you will survive it, you are certain that there is a different way of living and the best of all is that you are right! and I can see that you are willing to take the steps to get there.
What have happened in the past is just that, and you can not change it, but you and only you can make a determination to have a different future and change your life and the way you feel about your past from now on. It is good to get help as soon as possible when you can not handle things by your self but you are the only one who has the power to change yourself and your own life and the way you feel. Remember that we have a lot of strenght somewhere inside each of us, we just have to bring it out.
In my most stressful time in life, in which I thought I was getting crazy, a very close religious family member gave me a lot of hope and support. So, maybe some spiritual help can be helpful as well independently of your religion or how religious you are.
I think that one big first step you can take is forgive yourself for what ever you consider you have done to yourself and to others and forgive others for what they have done to you.
That can be hard and take quite a time but the benefits will be really huge!! so you can renew your self and prepare you self for a great future. Think about what you want to get accomplished in life and why, it is crucial to move forward and to bring out your inner strenght to do it and live happily.
Practicing any kind of sports and having a healthy life style (what you eat and so on) is great for getting rid off substances that are in you body because of stress and depression and that keep you there, also this kind of activities segregate good substances in your body that make you feel happier, relaxed and more confident . sports can also help to sleep and make you have something nice and challenging (in the possitive way) to look forward around the week.
If you are being done with highschool that is a big change in life, and a very good momemt to start over. Right now I can think of a book that could help you: The seven habits of highly efficient people by stephen covey. That will teach you to change some points of view, feel better with your self and be emotionally independent of others. I am sure that you can find a bunch of other books that can help you as well.
About your love relatioship and what happened, 16 is a very young age for a serious and responsable relationship. If you think that you are more serious and responsable than any boyfriend you can find, take it slow. I was so serious about relationships when i was younger that preffered to be alone rather than have somebody to hurt me. Being by your self is not that bad. Just don't be alone all the time, you need to learn how they behave think and expect just don't lower your expectaions about finding somebody that fits what you want. Have clear what you want, what is important for you in life (what you enjoy, your values, and so on) and what you what to get accomplished in life and don't waste your time with somebody that won't fit there. Eventually I found the right person not that late at 25, but suffered before for being with the wrong one, and by the way the blue prince doesn't exists, no body is perfect, so enjoy if you meet the one that is really close to be.
Some of the most important things I have leaned in life:
* happiness is just a dessicion
* Is stronger the one that falls and raises again to keep walking than that than never felt. Usually you will fall so don't be afraid of it, just raise again.
* If something happens to you again and again (something you don't want, something that makes you unhappy) and you wonder why it is because you haven't learned from it, so analyze it and learn and then do what ever you have to do so that won't happen again.
*You are the person who is going to love you the most ever, so treat yourself like that.
*Respect and love your self so others can too
* The world is under your feet waiting for you to conquer it, what are you waiting for, work a plan to make your dreams come true.
*Who is who to judge others? the judgement that really matters is that that you give to yourself. You haven't been on their shoes to judge others.
*Always be considered with others, respect other people thinking as well, and let them influence you but ONLY within the limits you set.
Good Luck!!!!!!!!!
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