Ive being on and off a relationship with my ex gf. I hate to say this but for the past year she has being coming in and out my life. Finally i put a stop to this. Ive being really stressing this relationship way to long and i dont know if i need to seek proffesional help. I constantly think about her day in day out and most of the times i have numerous dreams about her. I do good by not talking to her. Im i suffering from some kind of mental stress? Its being so long since ive being this depress because of it.What should i do?

Wondergirl

It's called intermittent reinforcement. She's there and then she's not there. You have to get her totally out of your life and your head.

Do a total No Contact. Get busy with other stuff. Working out regularly at a gym or at home is one of the best activities.

mum2five

So the relationship you thought would last forever has ended. Maybe it was your choice, or maybe not. Either way, it hurts, and you’re left wondering on how on earth you’ll be able to get over this.

Allow yourself time to grieve. Ending a relationship, whether it was your choice or not, is just the same as losing someone. You need time to get over it, time to mourn the relationship just as you would if someone you loved has died. You’re going to feel sad, maybe even depressed, so allow yourself to have those feelings. Don’t jump into a new relationship or take on any big projects just yet. You may want the distraction, but it’s important for your long-term mental health to feel your feelings now.

Do something that makes you feel good, but make sure that something is healthy. Don’t try to drown your sorrows in alcohol or drugs because they’ll only make you feel worse. Exercise is great for getting over a relationship; you get your endorphins flowing, which gives you a natural high, and you get a nicely toned body in the process ha.

Get a little help from your friends. When you’re getting over a relationship, your support system is more important than ever.

And remember you did have a life before she came along !

talaniman

This is your story here,

http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...-me-190542.htm

You have been on a roller coaster ride for a long time and now that your off of it, STAY OFF OF IT!!!!

In time you will heal and recover, and can put this chapter of your life in the past, and focus on what you want for your future.

She took up a lot of your time, emotion, and heart, don't go back to that.

You must ignore her to heal, and thats NO Contact for real dude.

Gemini54

I'd get some counseling.

If your mind is so totally bound up in thoughts of her, then you need some assistance to let go of the obsession.

If you really want to let it go and heal - then get help immediately. Keeping her in your mind is prohibiting you thinking about other, more useful things, and it's stopping you getting on with your life.

You've got a choice - make it!