[snow_princess]

My boyfriend and I (both 19) have been dating for a yr and a half. He plays hockey so if gone for the season. Hes drafted and is really concentrating on hockey. Meanwhile I'm really concentrating on my career. We've talked about making plans in the next yr (like sky diving and such), however, nothing has been brought up about the far future, marriage or anything of the sort. Does this mean he doesn't see us as being together for a long period? I was always brought up that you don't date someone unless you feel the potential for a life long partner is there.
Also, does this mean that he's not committed?
Or should I just shut up and stop worrying because if we're making a very long distance relationship work, I should be happy?

[olka]

It doesn't mean that he's not committed.
He can't really do anything right now as you have to be away from each other because of your separate careers.
You have to work it out with him so that you can be together as much as possible, especially when the hockey season is over.

[MrAdams]

Well be relieved because it does not mean he is not committed to you... You both are very young and more than likely being at such an age he is not thinking about being married... this does not mean that he wouldn't marry you nor that he is not happy with you simply that young men don't think of things in that manner as young women do not at the age of 19 he is enjoying her sports career and you are working on yours count your blessings that the two of you still make time for each other and that you are seemingly making a long distance relationship work.. as in your upbringing I can fully understand your concern but do not fret because you are still both very young and only time will show what is to come

[1finediva]

I think that you shouldn't worry or rush your relationship!! Just because he doesn't talk about marriage yet doesn't mean he's not committed it just means he's got his priorities straight career then the rest will fall into play! Like you said he'f focused on hockey OK? Take it easy it will happen be for you know it

[sweety]

You should talk about your worries with your man as it will help your relationship a great deal and he would respect you more if you opened up about your insecurities to him.

[Maki]

Me and my fiancée are in a very very very long distance relationship, and I'll be the first to admit it's the hardest thing I've ever done. All I do is worry that something's going to change how she feels about me or maybe she's going to change her mind about wanting to get married. But each time that I bring it up when we talk, she makes me realize that I really am the luckiest guy in the world. She wants to talk about everything that bothers me, just so we can make sure that we're not worrying about nothing. I'll be honest, a year ago, I didn't see myself being engaged talking about having children and all the great things that come with it, but now that it's happening, it's the best feeling in the world. My advice to you is to give him time. It takes different people different times to realize how they truly feel about someone. My baby and I have been together for a year and 3 months, but we knew we wanted to be together always in a couple months. I've known people to take years to decide that. She is in a similar situation as your b/f, she's so busy all the time that we hardly get to talk, and I worry about what's going on between us. Is she mad at me, is she falling out of love with me, what?? There's no reason whatsoever for me to worry, but I do anyway. If you love him, make sure you tell him. Tell him everything, don't ever hide it from him. If you worry that he doesn't see long term, sit down with him and let him know your feelings. If you worry about commitment, same thing, talk about it. Don't pressure him or anything, just calmly and peacefully talk about each others feelings. I can assure you that 9 times out of 10 if you're worrying about something, it's usually nothing. Don't let your mind stray when your heart's on the right path. Good luck.

[Jahiem28]

Hi this post is old but someone else is needing advice of this one. At age 19 your committed to a lot of things. IF you are going to college or the air force you have a lot to consider. It best to deal with the short term goals first and then worry about the long one later. There is no reason to discuss or commit to 5 or 10 years down the line. When 2 people are apart a lot can happen so there are no guarantee. You have to ask yourself What is the worst that could happen ;D. To people who love each other do not have to put pressure on each other to commit to be together forever cause if it true love then destiny with over-rule GOOD LUCK TO ALL GOD BLESS

[mike145k]

Ususaly a man on the move up in sports has a disciplined life style I doubt if he is wasteing his energy on other girls right now so don't worry about that,stay intouch with him as much as possible if he wants to marry you he would have said it already his life is planned that's the kind of guy he is and if your not already in the plans then forget it