hello, i have eating disorder (which i am getting help for) and of course my self esteem andself image is not good so i wanted to know if there r tapes out there to help elevate the self esteem, i think a person with these issues needs to hear from a motivational speaker every day to help sticking to elevating the self esteem because slipping back is soo much easier than lifting it up.

valinors_sorrow

The very best one I have ever heard was the one I made myself. I had to have help writing out the "script" but once I got past how different I sounded to me (we all do that LOL) it was sooooooo potent! You might try that too -- just a thought?

lovingu

hello val, what u mean? so, if u have tapes let me know, i always liked your responses, very thoughtful.

YeloDasy

Yeah, tapes you make yourself can be great!! Also, have you tried guided imagery tapes? just curious. I am going to look at some info and get back to you, ok?

valinors_sorrow

No, I mean you make your own. Write out a script of true statements of esteem about yourself, select some soft background music and record onto a blank tape to listen to again and again. There is something really powerful hearing good affirmations of your worth IN YOUR OWN VOICE!

and thanks for the compliment too.

lovingu

that is a very good idea, i will do that

valinors_sorrow

I am also a big proponent of raising esteem by doing esteemable acts so making the tape, no matter how silly you feel doing it or how stupid you think it may turn out, is still a worthy actions and can yield a big plus in the self esteem book.

Amythest

i think you shlould make the tape, also get a list of positives about yourself, from yourself and others and put it on a mirror and say them to yourself.
I am a smart person
I am worthy of love.
I am talented at ......
those kinds of things.

juggalovoodoo

You should listen to insane clown posse (ICP) i used to be shy and think i wasnt wanted in the 6th grade i got picked on and then i started listening to icp they do swear and talk about murder but it does make you feel better about yourself listen to the great milenko (CD) it has lotsa songs on it that could help you change when i started listening to icp i went right up to the bully and i scared him bad all though i hardly remember what i did i was never shy anymore i would go up to random girls and hug them and say i like you but they just called me a scrubby so i didnt really have many gf's then i still wasnt wanted but atleast i wasnt sad about it now im in 10th grade i still listen to icp daily and i feel really great about my life i regret nothing and guess what i have people at my school that tell me to kill myself and dissapear but i dont walk away crying i walk away laughing with a big smile on my face...

chuff

I tried to rate you but I had to spread it. I'm not being sarcastic when I say this, but I think that is the greatest idea I may have ever heard. I've listened to some stuff by Tony Robbins and Paul McKinny but doing it in your own voice is so much more reaffirming. What a tremendous idea.

Okay I have a few questions. How long did you do this for? I mean was it on a hour tape and if so did you write out a hour's worth of material or did you repeat some it? Did you use affirmations or did you give yourself positive stories of overcoming something?