I had some wild and stupid times between the ages of 13 and 16, finally I'd had enough I was tired and hungry and hurting so I stopped answering the phone, answering the door, or going out and talking to all my old "friends" at all. I see it as a really positive move, before my wild and stupid days I enjoyed nothing more than school work and reading books by the carload and taking care of my pets and over the last few years I've come to love those things once again.

I ask this because my mother is forever "diagnosing" me with various mental illnesses - like agorophobia(sp?) and depression and such and I'm sure that there's nothing wrong with me but it gets a bit annoying, I'm fine going out I'm just so very content and happy doing what I'm doing right now and knowing that I'm not going to be arrested or get a STD or any of the other bad things that happen to nieve young girls.

It actually took a really long time to come to terms with how monumentally stupid I was being and I still beat myself up about it sometimes but for the most part I've made peace and learned from my mistakes and I definitly think I've kept a reasonable level of self-awareness through the last few years, in short I'm happy with where I am right now, what do you think?

N0help4u

Have you ever asked her why it is so important that you get out of the house.
Ask her what she thinks you should be doing

Have you ever told her that all you see happening out there is
kids getting mixed up in the wrong crowd
STD's
drug addiction

Maybe she can help you think of some things to do to get you out

You don't sound like it is fear, laziness or depression so you are probably just fine

HistorianChick

Darlin', no. It is not wrong for you to enjoy your "reformed" life. It is not wrong to not be partying, getting drunk, putting yourself in situations that jeapordize your health and well-being, chancing a number of different crimes, etc. That is not wrong. That's growing up.

Don't worry. Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. Sounds like you have experienced the party lifestyle and have simply chosen that it is not for you.

Choux

bee,

You have to make a life for yourself in the real world or *risk* the chance that you will, hm, how to say this, become a "crazy lady", as we say in ChicagoLand. Running away from the real world makes for trouble down the road of life.

I guess you are taken care of, and you don't work.....Is someone infantilizing you?

Let me just say, no matter how far behind you are in your emotional and social development, it really can't be that much....today, young people are known for being teenagerish long into their 20's. You can make a good effort toward growing up with help from a professional.

There is real happiness and enjoyment for you out there in real life.

blackblue

Tell your mom to stop being a hypochondriac.

I stay home all the time.I like going out with friends but i'm a homebody and there's nothing wrong with it.

kolkay

I don't think it is wrong for you to want to stay in the house. I was in the same boat as you. I was out all the time with friends doing usual things like going to the mall or hanging out at a friend's house, but by the time my senior year in high school came around, I just didn't want to go out anymore. I made up excuses to my friends to stay home, and although I was involved in sports so still has social activities, I didn't go out with friends often. I am still that way. Of course after high school came college and very busy schedule, so at the end of the day I just want to veg out and relax, not stay out all night. You make the choices in your life and that is the way it is supposed to be. Home is comforting!