I will be fifty this year and feel frightened when I think about it. I´m single and have one daughter who lives elsewhere and is not speaking to me.

I feel there are so many goals I haven´t reached, both professionally and personally it makes me sad.

Seven years ago I was living abroad and had an esteemed profession. I was forced to move back to my country because I was transferred. My life hit an all time low and I got really depressed. I changed my job and took another which was less demanding and lived in an isolated, small town.

I saw a psychologist and got medication for my depression. The first three or four years were awful and I felt frightened about almost everything. Financial difficulties and loneliness just about killed me. My job is boring and there is no fulfillment in it.

I need to make some changes. I don´t feel strong enough though. One thing I have done is joining a gym.

I fear I won´t meet any man, because I haven´t been able to in the past seven years, and I fear I won´t have enough energy to find a new job. I feel I have wasted my time.

Please help and give me some advice.

Violet

Violet31

Good idea, NoHelp!

I need to find out about all those things. In the meantime, I woke up feeling ill with a cold. Needless to say, it doesn´t help my crisis right now.

I got the feeling yesterday, when I wrote all this, that I have been waiting for good things to happen, which is what I tend to do if I don´t watch myself. I waited for many years and nothing remarkable happened, of course, because I didn´t do much to bring good changes about.

I know I can achieve most of the things I hope for if I have the strength, but I have very little energy. This is a problem. When I´m down mentally I tend to get colds.

I will keep posting on this and hope you will too. And other people with something more to add, of course.

Violet

N0help4u

Yeah you can't wait---you gotta make them happen by getting out and involved in things.